Hey there.
Looking for some advice as my circumstances are set to change drastically and childcare for my 7 year old is set to become very challenging but of course not insurmountable so keen to hear how other people manage.
I work full time in a training role including weekends / nights and long days oncall.
I have my daughter 50% following two complex court visits over the last 5 years.
I was previously part time when my partner and I were together for childcare purposes primarily, in my role that delays training as well as reduces pay proportionately. I am now financially responsible for school as my ex refuses to contribute (excess 15k per year)
As a result I now cannot afford to go part time and my childcare (parents) are about to move away as they should in their twilight years.
This leaves me at odds with options for childcare primarily school pick up and the odd overnights or weekend care, the cost of which plus school fees prevents me from going part time again now. Not least it puts my next salary jump point back to 2029 from 2026 such that I would not be able to afford private school (my ex will doubtless not contribute) should my daughter go that route, bursaries etc not conducted. As per my other costs I have no problems budgeting as little as required for myself.
My thoughts are an aupair / a nanny which would be needed overnight and friends to help with childcare.
My ex and I have 0 working relationship and do not speak no matter how much I have pushed for a working relationship. This change will no doubt lead to a further court challenge by her though not right away so less of a concern right now
Has anyone found any non family dependent strategies that work?
p.s.
Changing job is not an option simply as I'm on a training ladder. Exiting is 5 years wasted, loss of salary points as well and you cannot transfer across to other roles. Job flexibility is totally variable on a year by year basis hence controlling out of work circumstances is preferable!
Based in the UK!
MC