Nanny for a fortnight to cover honeymoon - would you - could you?

[Homebird8]

My friend is getting married and planning a distant honeymoon for a fortnight. However, she is wondering about her 'will be 2 1/4' DD and whether to take her or not. Failing family / friends having her for the fortnight are there any nannies out there with this sort of availability? Would you leave a little one in these circumstances. Don't think I would!

I wouldn't but there are some nannies who would take the job.

There would be nannies who could do this, and I have left my children with their regular nanny. Personally I think that it is a long time with a short-term nanny.

Where would she find a short term nanny? I'm interested because I'm one of the friends in the picture otherwise and I don't think I can do it.

i bet she will really miss her for 2 weeks, i would, she could easily arrange childcare there i bet.

Child care there is a thought.

Hmm, I couldn't do it. Is the man she's marrying the father of her child?

If she asks you, I would refuse. Looking after someone else's toddler for a fortnight would be a nightmare .. for both of you, I suspect!

Not taking her could potentially be damaging for the child and the relationship between the newly weds, whether he's the father of the child or not. Why not take her and get some childcare organised with the holiday company?

2 weeks is a long time - even if only a week I could only do it if the child was with a person very well known to it, who stayed in my house so the child wasn't in unfamiliar surroundings and who knew the daily routines, important toys/comfort blankets etc etc (eg grandparents)

Yes Desiderata, the groom is the child's father. I've already thought it through and decided to say no. I was just trying to think of other options. With a child that age it'd be ok caring for her but when it comes down to it, if she justs wants Mummy I can't cut the mustard.

My major problem is that I just wouldn't plan a honeymoon with the thought of leaving my little ones behind. Mind you, I've never had anywhere I could leave them and I've was married for 9 years before they arrived!

agree - would take a child and a nanny on the honeymoon if it was me

So would I Crumpet. They are very aware at that age.

I left my 20 month old for 3 days but only because she's got 3 older siblings and was looked after by close friends, 2 weeks as an only child - no way!

It's too long. We left 2 small children with grandparents, aunt nad very long term nanny for a week when I was pregnant with no. 3 and it was too long and we didn't do it again.

My friend had a miserable time when she left her child behind to go on honeymoon. She returned after four days because she couldn't bear it.

why doesnt she take a holiday nanny ?
www.holidaynanny.org/ ? That way she gets help but doesnt leave DD behind. I couldn't go without my LO's TBH but everyone is different.

I think you should make your plans to fir your circumstances. We had next to no money when we got married (it went up in the next few years and now we're back where we started). The point is that we scraped and saved for a week self catering in Scotland. In their case it's not a money issue but their hampering factor (though I hate to call the little sweetheart a hampering factor) is that they have a child. They should be taking her into consideration like we had to take our income as a given. Am I being unreasonable?

no exactly Homebird8, they should absolutely take her into consideration. They chose to get married after her birth if they wanted a stunning 2 weeks away they should have gone a lot sooner IMO!!

Agree she would probably feel better if she took a nanny with her - or is there an option of sending the toddler and the nanny to stay at the grandparents house, have just completed a short stay at the grandparents with some children I short termed nannied for - knew the children for 4 days before left so I knew the routine and the children knew me but were comforted by having nanny and grandad there too

Love the idea of holiday nanny! What a great business to be in! Thanks Mousemole

Haven't used their service yet but it's a cracking idea isn't it. Especially if you were self catering and had an extra room free ! I'll start saving....

Holiday nanny are a good bet - I've had work through them. Or other agencies will probably be able to offer temps that will travel.

i had my old charges for 2 weeks

aged 16 weeks 4 years and 8 years

I loved it, we had great fun BUT it put me off having children for about 3 years...

(not put off anymore though )

It made me realise how hard it really is doing 24 care and functioning in the day when you have been up all night. (i relaly do ahve the greatest repsect for mums who funstion on years of broken sleep... 2 weeks was enough for me!)

(oh and we ALL had really ansty colds for a significant part of those 2 weeks)

I was 19 years old

Holiday nanny sounds great but it will cost a fortune - you have to book another hotel room and another flight as well.

TBH I would take DD and make sure I booked a hotel with a great creche. Going there without her and then 'missing' her would ruin a holiday for me. That means they would have to avoid 'honeynmoon' hotels but IME that's not bad thing - I used to go to Mauritius for long weekends and some of the hotels there made me feel ill - 200 loved up couples on honeymoon....wall to wall chris de burgh music every night.... urgh.

My mum left me with gps when she went on her honeymoon - I was 7, and I still remember the feeling . . . .!!