Childcare help

[Chucks23]

Hi everyone! Just looking for some opinions regarding childcare. I am a Sahm of 2, 2 yo and 4mo. I recently put my 2yo into childcare for 7 hours a week, 2 mornings just to give me a break and to try and get some cleaning done etc. so far it’s been anything but a break as my child is constantly sick since going there and it’s bringing the whole house down. Lo does be sick for weeks on end, goes back for one week and picks something else up. The cm states in her policies that she does not look after children that are sick however the other parents are constantly bringing their children unwell. I understand that they have jobs to go to and can’t take time off work but it’s inconsiderate to the other children. When my child is sick, they stay at home with me. The cm is not very hygienic and does be sick herself a lot and does not practice hygiene etiquette. This really bothers me! Not only is the constant sickness stressing me out, I am then charged for the time that my child doesn’t attend due to illness. It took a good few weeks for my child to settle which I found very hard and considered pulling as it upset me too much. The cm insisted that I don’t do that and that she would support the child as much as she could to get them settled. Just as my child was starting to settle, I collected one day and they were in floods of tears, inconsolable. I questioned what had happened and it was something so silly that she had given out to my child for and said they need to learn. I know it’s good for my child to mix with other children but I have a bad feeling about this place. They are in business (small self employed) nearly 20 years and came on a recommendation. I suppose I’m just looking for opinions. Am I being over sensitive and should I stick it out. Btw my child has said they don’t want to go back. Do children say this or should I be worried that there’s more to it. Thanks

look for another cm or nursery

Yes for the first term or two kids will pick up everything going esp in winter

They go healthy. Get sick. Have time off and you have to pay

But as immune system picks up will get better

Or even a nanny if can afford one

You say it's recent but that lo has been off sick for weeks at a time...how long have they been in childcare? What sort of sickness?

The cm is not very hygienic and does be sick herself a lot and does not practice hygiene etiquette.

What makes you say this

How long have they been in childcare? What's wrong with her hygiene etiquette?

It's standard and a pita for them to be sick al the time when they go to a childcare setting. If it's d and v I'd be annoyed at parents sending their kids in but you can't keep them off for every cold / snotty nose / cough.

On the plus side if they have been in a setting before they start school they are pretty resilient. Otherwise it just happens on reception.

Given out to your child, what does that mean?

You're not keeping them home for standard colds are you, if you desperately need this break?

What level of poor hygiene? Kids are super mucky and snotty, it's easy to see the chaos.

She told me she reads childcare boards so I’m super paranoid that she’ll read but anyhoo. I’m terms of hygiene, your children don’t wash their hands after using toilet. I mentioned this and she told me oh they don’t touch it when they go so it’s ok. Another day her nose dripped onto the floor and she just walked out and didn’t clean it up when the children do be playing on the floor! I’m a germaphobe at the best of times but I think anyone would agree that this is not right! My lo stated settling in and picked up a virus and was off for a week then was back for 2 weeks and picked up another virus and it took a month nearly to shift. Virus with fever etc so not just a cold. I get that it builds immunity but having a newborn at home too it’s risky. I don’t want to detail what she had given out to them over incase she reads this but it was so innocent especially for a 2 year old but it was her attitude regarding my child too. As I said I don’t know if I’m being over the top with it being my first child in childcare and not used to how things are done but at this stage we’ve paid more on sick days than days they’ve attended!

If you're not happy with the standard of care you should definitely change providers. Children should be washing hands etc but you do say you're a bit obsessed with hygiene and you need to be realistic. Kids get ill a lot when they're first in mixing especially in winter so that's normal. They're pretty grubby too, but what you describe isn't what I'd expect from a childminder.

That all sounds pretty grim from the hygiene perspective. Children should be washing their hands regularly, especially when they are going to the toilet. I don’t think you are being precious.
But your child getting sick is completely normal. Based on the discipline element I would be dropping her. She shouldn’t be speaking harshly to a 2 year old.

Thank you for all replies. Maybe I am over stressing the sickness but with it being relentless, it’s pretty exhausting and anything but a break looking after sick infants. My husband is great but he has to work.
cm the only option I have of support, don’t really have any other support networks so might look at some other options. I know there’s mother and baby/toddler groups but I don’t think that would give me the break I need 😬