Absence of parents

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Hi Everyone, I have 2 kids, recently had ended up hospital due to septicemia my husband usually works outside country, couldn't get Gp app and couldn't go to A&E when my temperature hit 41 at night because don't have anyone to look after kids had to kept temperature down till hubby back 5 days then ended up going hospital As soon as he stepped in to the house.
I had to came out without fully recovered due to childcare , I feel I am not getting better he will have to travel again, if I end up going back to hospital what would happened to my kids ? Would social services involved hospital don't accept kids my kids are 3.5 and 1 year old. I am so worried and trying to get better despite 12 antibiotics a day not seems much improvement.
Is there any place I can get sport for full childcare when both parents are not here?

Yes social services would step in if you are in hospital and your husband is out of the country.
Is he in the U.K. now and you came home out of hospital anyway?
What job does he do - unless it’s military I would imagine he’ll have to put off going away again now and would have return if he was abroad and your kids were taken into care because you were ill.

In serious circumstances the kids would probably go into temporary foster care.

But if your condition is ongoing, your DH would be expected to change jobs.

If there is.no other family to help your husband may have to take time off from his job until you are fully better. Some employers allowed dependent leave or he may have to use holiday. Does his employer know you have been ill?

I’m with everyone else - your husband simply can’t go away. Even in the military I have known people not be deployed due to (serious) family illness.

temp foster care would kick in if no one else
was around but it would be the nuclear option and one I would think you and your DH would do almost anything to avoid.

Omg it's gonna give my kids trauma I am out of the hospital few days ago because my infection level down from 259 to 22 kind of begged being discharged and he is also has diabetes and which is not sleeping and looking after kids Will make his health is vulnerable. He does sale and Bd I don't have family in uk his parents are old and ill. So scarey

Your dh needs to rearrange his work and he at home to take care of you and dc.

Simply your DH doesn't go away for his job, he has no choice but to stay.

Single parents don't have that option at all, you have to look after your health.

Your kids may be placed in temporary foster care but really your husband should be staying at home until you are better. Get well soon.

Your DH needs to stay at home.

He should ask to take either paid annual leave or unpaid parental leave.

Thank you everyone, he was already taking off during my hospital stay he looked after the kids himself now he became ill lack of sleep and rest didn't do good impact on his diabetes, I am home at the moment but there is a high chance I go back doctors said to me usually people like in your condition end up coming back, also forgot the mention he is in still probation and only the breadwinner. Everything happened in the same time, I never been ill and desperate like this even covid lockdown. Currently resting in the bed he needs to start work tomorrow and week later he has business trip coming up that's why I am worried 😟 😨

I'd get a nanny or childminder if no friends or family could help and your DH need to sort work and be home to care for his family. Appreciate he has his own health concerns and childcare would help.

Yes a nanny agency for urgent help?

A nanny agency is a good idea but they're expensive.

If you can't afford one, he'll need to change his job to one that doesn't involve travel I'm afraid.

Your DH needs to stay home. We don’t have family anywhere near us and I’ve had some recent hospital stays. My DH has had to step up and have the kids, there was no other way. My DH has cancelled future business plans when I’ve been in hospital and rearranged them on the provision the date may need to change again dependent on when I was well again.

if your husband is due to travel next week I would expect him to change his plans as you are clearly still really suffering. Your health needs to come first and, by the sounds of it, there’s a chance you might end up back in hospital. I’m sure you would rather your husband care for the children rather than a foster family who the children don’t know.

Childminders don't do 24 hour care which is what's needed if dad isn't in the country.

Why does your husband get ill doing the childcare? Plenty of single parents have diabetes is he not eating properly or watching his bloods?

Which is why I also said he needs to sort work. Childcare would help him manage and stay well.

An emergency nanny could step in so children be in familiar surroundings

Obv wound cost

Agree with others, your husband needs to stay. In an emergency situation it's completely acceptable to take leave, even if it's unpaid.