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childminder problem

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cascade · 10/03/2008 17:31

hi ive name changed as my usual name would make it obvious to who i am (being paranoid)
What would you do if you found out second hand that a childminder smacked her mindee. This happened to me 2 years ago and i did nothing, i still feel very bitter about the experience. When i see the childminder around the town i want to do damage to her, even after all this time. I now find out she has just been given an outstanding from ofsted, first in her area, as she was in the local paper. What would you have done in this situation? Is this normal to feel so bitter after all this time.

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dustystar · 10/03/2008 17:39

I understand why you feel upset but I don't think that there's much you can do about it after 2 years.

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cascade · 10/03/2008 17:42

no i know. i just saw her in the street and im still nice as pie to her. just needed to get it out.

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dustystar · 10/03/2008 17:43

Fair enough

NannyDonna · 10/03/2008 17:48

There is no exsuse for CM/Nanny/Ap to smack, their job is to teach child right from wrong in different ways.i have looked after children for a long time and i know how stressed they can make you but i would never dream of hitting another persons child.i DO NOT agree with smacking.you have put trust in this carer and i too would still feel cross.why did she smack do you know?
SORRY THIS HAPPENED TO YOU THERE IS FAB CARERS THAT WOULD NEVER SMACK children in their care.

ShinyDysonHereICome · 10/03/2008 17:53

I'm amazed that you did not call Ofsted and raise a complaint with them which would have helped prevent her smacking another child.

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cascade · 10/03/2008 17:59

not sure why, the person who told me was in other room, heard a smack then dd cryin. Whats worse was she was only doing cover as normal CM on hols, thats how the arrangement had always been. My CM was best friends with her, they did everything together. So in the end when i found out normal CM was going on holiday next, i went into panick and cause dd was 3 i swapped to nursery. Im still bitter cause my CM was fantastic, but i couldnt tell her as info was second hand by a very trust worthy friend of the family and that would have caused problems too for her.

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cascade · 10/03/2008 18:04

when i say friend of the family, i mean the person who told me was a friend of the cover CM family. And yes she did smack the other children too!!!

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vInTaGeVioLeT · 10/03/2008 19:13

cascade - why on earth did you not raise your concerns with ofsted?

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cascade · 10/03/2008 19:55

i didnt because i couldnt report to ofsted that someone had told me, thats rumour. The person who told me was v close to family, would have caused serious upset for her as she told me in confidence as she thought i ought to know. My partner and i talked about it for ages about how to deal with it, unless we witnessed it what could we do. We could have potentially ruined her career on rumour (even though i know 100% what was said was true) we felt we couldnt do this. believe me to this day i really dislike her, especially as i know how much she charges for being an "outstanding childminder"

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ShinyDysonHereICome · 10/03/2008 22:41

Ofsted would still have followed up your concerns.

I'm sorry but I think it's very shocking, not to mention irresponsible that you have let this go unreported

I dread to think how many children this woman may have hit

CAT me her details and I'll report this to Ofsted if that makes it easier for you.

vInTaGeVioLeT · 10/03/2008 22:55

i'm fairly sure that ofsted have to follow up any allegations of child abuse - and yes it could've ruined her career but you "knew" it was 100% true

i think the hatred you're feeling towards her is because you feel guilty that you didn't do the right thing

it's not too late - report her - at least then you've done the right thing and it is up to ofsted how they deal with it - it will however stay on her record whatever happens.

vInTaGeVioLeT · 10/03/2008 22:55

i'm fairly sure that ofsted have to follow up any allegations of child abuse - and yes it could've ruined her career but you "knew" it was 100% true

i think the hatred you're feeling towards her is because you feel guilty that you didn't do the right thing

it's not too late - report her - at least then you've done the right thing and it is up to ofsted how they deal with it - it will however stay on her record whatever happens.

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cascade · 10/03/2008 22:55

It wasnt a question of being irresponsible, I cant go into details as you never know who actually reads these threads. But the person who told me, would never been in a position to follow through the accusation. Plus what could ofsted have done? no witnesses, just rumour. The CM would have denied it. Believe me if i felt there was any way i could have followed through, i would have. I also felt duty bound to keep the confidence of the person who told me, due to their cicumstances.

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BradfordMum · 11/03/2008 07:19

This happened to me a couple of months ago - I saw a childminder strike the little boy in her care. She also had 6 under 5's in her care. I made a phone call to OFSTED as soon as I got home. I made a statement and was told that I had to also phone Social Services. I phoned SS, who took all details from me, and then ASKED ME WHAT WOULD HAPPEN NEXT! I told them that I had done my duty, reporting it to both Ofsted and themselves, and what happened next was NOT up to me.
Ofsted made an appointment to visit the CM, in my opinion a bad move as she decanted some of the children off for the day. She denied striking the child.
I received a letter updating me from Ofsted saying they had visited her, and all was in order. She's still childminding.

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dustystar · 11/03/2008 12:41

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