Nanny ask to bring her baby

[Mlehembre]

We have 2 boys 8 and 5 years old. My 5 years old is atisime, non verbal at the moment. He is not difficult but have limited understanding. We have nanny who look after them after school. We also have 2 days a week she takes them to club. Where she will need to stay with my 5 year one. She is amazing and has been with us for more then a year. Both kids loves her as well. She just found out she is pregnant and her due date is in early June. We are all happy for her and of course I have to start plan what happen to my 2 boys. She informed me she is planning to come back in September as by then her little one will be 3 month, she can take the little one and do school pick up for 2 of mine. I am not sure I am comfortable with that. Couple of reason here：

3 month old baby will have different needs with 2 of them

1. The clubs where she needs be with my 5 years old one, she cannot have her little one as well.
2. My most concern is the uncertain of sick day/ leave may required. And to be honest I am not sure she fully understand as a mummy with a new born first 6 month is a full-time job already. Both me and my husband have quite demanding job, in the past when she was sick we do have trouble and now with little one I do feel there will be more days.

I think I will be happy to have her back after the new year, but again not bring her little one.

I would like to tell her as I can see she really feel she can do it, and she needs the money. But this is still very early stage of her pregnancy, don't think it is the right time.

My current plan is to put boys in after school club, or course I need to find one who would have my 5 years old. And if she is willing I am happy to have her still do the 2 days club run, so she can still have some money.

Would be great for your advice, if you are nanny welcome to our your point of view as well.
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honeylulu · Today 21:09

Well OP if she was actually dedicated and competent she'd probably have gotten a permanent job, not been relegated to maternity cover. In an industry where it's 'hard to recruit'.

Yes quite. If she's griping about wanting a better salary she needs to start working out why she isn't considered worthy of one.

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Mlehembre · Today 21:09

We have 2 boys 8 and 5 years old. My 5 years old is atisime, non verbal at the moment. He is not difficult but have limited understanding. We have nanny who look after them after school. We also have 2 days a week she takes them to club. Where she will need to stay with my 5 year one. She is amazing and has been with us for more then a year. Both kids loves her as well. She just found out she is pregnant and her due date is in early June. We are all happy for her and of course I have to start plan what happen to my 2 boys. She informed me she is planning to come back in September as by then her little one will be 3 month, she can take the little one and do school pick up for 2 of mine. I am not sure I am comfortable with that. Couple of reason here：

3 month old baby will have different needs with 2 of them

1. The clubs where she needs be with my 5 years old one, she cannot have her little one as well.
2. My most concern is the uncertain of sick day/ leave may required. And to be honest I am not sure she fully understand as a mummy with a new born first 6 month is a full-time job already. Both me and my husband have quite demanding job, in the past when she was sick we do have trouble and now with little one I do feel there will be more days.

I think I will be happy to have her back after the new year, but again not bring her little one.

I would like to tell her as I can see she really feel she can do it, and she needs the money. But this is still very early stage of her pregnancy, don't think it is the right time.

My current plan is to put boys in after school club, or course I need to find one who would have my 5 years old. And if she is willing I am happy to have her still do the 2 days club run, so she can still have some money.

Would be great for your advice, if you are nanny welcome to our your point of view as well.
Thanks

Have you copy and pasted that from elsewhere? Bizarre layout and comments below.

Aaaa, yes first day here, I wrote this and post then realised I post under a thread which has nothing to do with my topic. So copy out and try to redo it, but clearly not good. Eeerr

No, I wouldn’t accept that. She’s being paid to take care of your children. I don’t take my baby to work with me.

You have to offer her the job as it stands

You don't have to allow her to bring baby

You can let her know now they baby isn't welcome. You don't wed to explain self

Tbh going back at 3mths is rare. Can only assume a money thing

I went back at 4mths but I work nights so dd was asleep at home with daddy when I worked. She still is now at 6yr

Former nanny here abs echo Blondes sound advice . You have to offer her a job after maternity leave but don’t have to accept the baby.
For the posters asking why should she bring her baby , it is often done and a lower hourly rate would be paid . After school positions are extremely difficult to fill . Nannies want full time hours . Plus the fact she gets on with your children at the moment should be in her favour .
You don’t know what will happen when she has the baby she may change her mind and have longer off work.
But I would advise a no to her bringing the baby be honest - first baby , and tea time and after school clubs not going to work . You can say you will reconsider when she returns to work . Maybe she is a good juggler and baby is super chilled .

I would say no to this. You have no reason to feel guilty for saying no. Your youngest child needs someone who is not focused on their own baby to care for him.

Her assumption that she can bring her child to work when you are paying her is very rude. She should be asking how you feel about it, not just telling you that’s what she expects.

Too many nannies now expect to be able to bring their baby

And for the same rate ffs

I've always said

It's a privilege to be able to take own baby/child to work

You should take a pay cut as no childcare fees to pay and baby with you all day

You don't give 100% of attention to nanny kids if have own baby /child there.

How can you

Too many nannies now are indignant that they should earn less

No other professional role would allow to take own child to work and for same money

Speaking as was a nanny for over 20yrs

It would be worth you reading up on your responsibilities as a nanny employer. Eg she has a legal right to return to work after maternity leave, not wanting to keep her on the basis her child could be ill could be discriminatory etc.

But all that said she does not have any right to bring her back to work and so it’s completely fine to say no. In your shoes I would want to say no too. The only consideration is how hard it will be to make other arrangements - either wrap around care (if available and suitable) or recruiting another nanny. If you’d struggle then it might be worth offering her the chance to bring baby for a trial period of around 6 weeks at which point you can decide whether or not it’s working.