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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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advice on childcare

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heagney · 08/03/2008 08:14

my twins are 3 weeks old and we have a maternity nanny for the next 5 weeks. Can anyone advise me on care i need going forward. We live in Islington.

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Twiglett · 08/03/2008 08:18

Congratulations on the birth of your child.

You obviously felt the need to have a maternity nanny in the early stages. If you can work out for yourself where your areas of concern lie then you can address those with your maternity nanny.

The childcare help you will need going forward is really up to you. Most people get on with learning about being a parent by actually doing it, without much help .. and by meeting people in the same position and going through it together.

I'd take the chance to seek out your local post-natal groups, find out if there's a multiple births group too.

Personally I think having additional help in the long-term is just a barrier between you and your children and your ability to settle into your new role as a parent. but this is a very personal decision and down to the individual in terms of what they believe is needed.

Twiglett · 08/03/2008 08:18

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Congratulations on the birth of your children!

roisin · 08/03/2008 08:25

I agree with Twig. Getting on and getting on with it, is the best solution.

I had a friend with twins who arranged 'help' every time she had to go out with them, and it made her think she couldn't manage on her own.

Another friend had twins and a 2 yr-old, and she just got on with it.

Twins are very tiring though, especially in the early stages if they are feeding a different times, it's very hard to get any rest. (Are you breastfeeding?)

If you can afford help, I would suggest having someone to take complete responsibility for the babies for a set number of hours whilst you have a proper rest, has got to be a bonus.

frannikin · 08/03/2008 17:29

IF you feel you need the help, which you may not, then maybe look into having a night nanny 2 or 3 nights a week so you can have a proper rest.

But hopefully your maternity nanny is supporting you and your partner in learning to care for your twins so fingers crossed in 5 weeks time you'll be fine.

Congratulations!

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