My ex has our son 2 nights a week he won't communicate with me or anyone really purely out of pettiness however, during the summer holidays he expects to drop son off on the way to work and for myself to have our son until he finishes work. I also work and have had to cut my hours back massively/use holidays to cover child care over the summer. He's not had any time off to help with childcare so I could go to work. To top it off he asked to skip a week of having our son as he was on holiday with his friends. I understand it's hard over summer and work places aren't always accommodating but I'm taking a massive pay loss this month and I feel this isn't fair. I typically work 4-5 days a week and for summer I've cut it down to 2 thinking when son is with dad I can work but I'm left on the mornings of 'dads days' being asked to pick son up as he's been left with a relative under the impression I would come pick him up and have him for the day when this was never agreed/mentioned. I can't stand confrontation so I typically just get on with it when I did say this isn't fair on our son or the relatives you leave him with as they can't have him for the full day so they are then left to message me to collect him as they need to leave for work. I just got told 'ok' for the same thing to happen again. Thankfully my mum (retired) is always on hand ready as we all just expect this behaviour. For split parents who both work what is the typical arrangement for childcare over the holidays? Do you keep it the same as a school week? How do you enforce this? Surely I can't force him to take time off. A few friends said when relatives ring tell them to contact sons dad as it's his problem but I'd never do that to my son imagine how he would feel.