Thursday Staff Room!!

[crace]

Morning girls, we all busy this am?

My usual two mindees, dd and me today. Still all ill but misery loves company and all that.

DS is being a little so and so though. 11 - what a great age

aw crace - passing tissues and hot lemon for you. hope you're not in too much pain!

no mindees till 10.30 this morn! my ft has his 1st b'day today so parents have taken day off work and i get bonus day too! yippee. going to pop in and see him on sat to give him little pressi from dd. meeting my other mindee at toddler group this morn, mum staying for a while which will be fun, good friend.

dd fell over in park yesterday, didn't think anything of it. picked her up gave cuddle. this morn got her dressed and her knee had red spot on it with black middle. like a splinter. gosh how she screamed, think i got it out but still very red. feel a trip to the nurse coming on!!!!!!!

hope all have a good day. will bring cookies back from shops later!

Morning! Aged 12 is even worse! That's why I haven't been in yet today! DH & I have been having a row with DD!

It was an ishoo with her mobile going off at 11pm last night! I looked at her phone to see what was going on, which I wouldn't normally do. I don't want to know what she talks about! So, I knew who her last txt message was from and this morning I aksed her to show me the last message she received was and she deleted them back to 4pm! Sooo busted! Wits end springs to mind!

Morning everyone.

It's dull and wet here again after yesterdays lovely sunshine.
We are going to toddler group this morning after last mindee arrives and after lunch we are having a get together with local childminders. So no peace for me today.

Hello everyone I am not working today (apart from a meeting at 1pm), I am not discussing pay, or moaning, am I ok to come in??

Sigh!

Our two dss do the same with their mobiles mml - they think we are daft don't they!

Your poor dd EM!

I am going to have a bit of a tidy round this morning and put my new sand and water table in the back garden. DS is nattering for his big red bus which he left at nursery yesterday.He has been extremely emotional and teary lately and wanting to take a toy to nursery every day too. Don't know what to do with him!

DH went back over her messages and it appeared that she'd sent some at 10pm, not last night admittedly, but she was still supposed to be in bed. She tried to deny it was her! I do understand that she was mortified that she'd been found out and didn't know what to say for the best, but she just wasn't getting it! Her arguement for last night was I didn't send a message back though, because I didn't have any credit! Well a) if you'd have had credit, you would have done and b) why haven't you got any credit, I topped it up 5 days ago!

Ofsted are visiting me this week had a phone call yesterday to discuss the beach

oh mo sounds wonderful in your house at the mo
i have 2 boys myself aged 10 and 11 (11yr old just started high school) dreading when he gets to the teenager stage. ATM he still believes in the tooth fairy and father christmas but the time will come

My ds doesn't have a mobile yet, but we are in the country so maybe that makes a difference? I hadn't even thought about those yet?! Am I depriving him? No one else in his year (6) have them?

Todays issue was that he broke his glasses THREE times since June and I just got them replaced AGAIN on Tuesday and I caught him putting them in his bag!! WTF?! The child is -2, he is so blind and yet refuses to wear the freaking things. I called the school to have them make sure he wears them, but why do I have to be mean about this?! He's autistic, so I would have thought it's not vanity? I could be wrong, but he's never been bothered by them before.

Kay You can come here and moan anytime - this is the bubble of safety

Hey EM and ML have good a day!

Oh dmo, I am sorry. So you get an inspection on top of the guilt, how nice of them.

Don't panic DMO. Remember, it is the parents you have to keep happy, not Ofsted. They are just doing what it says in the Ofsted manual. Believe it or not they are probably parents too and will empathise with you. Your parents are fine about it, aren't they?

yes my parents have been really good
one set got me some flowers and a sorry card and the other set got mw a bottle of wine
would show ofsted these items but the wine is in the recycle box still have the flowers and card

No, your no depriving him Crace. DD didn't have a phone until the summer holidays between Yr 6 and 7. It just wasn't necessary, but once she started going out with her mates to the park etc, I needed to know where she was. She's not allowed to take it to school. They are banned and the sod of it is, I wouldn't have had the arguement with her until tonight, had she not mentioned that the school did a spot check for phones yesterday!

I am a firm believer that Ofsted workers are not the big bad people we think they are! They just have to work to guidelines the same as we do and we know how naff half of those are! When are they coming?

No crace my two dss only have a phone so their mum can call and text them constantly during the short time they spend with their dad, telling them she is lonely or the dog misses them or some such guilt trip. But that's a whole other thread....

DMO you poor thing I can totally relate to how you are feeling, once it is over with you will feel much better. Your ds sound lovely, hope my ds still believes for a good long while!

not sure when ofsted are coming they just asked when i would be in this week (like an inspection)

right off to toddlers b4 ofsted arrive

crace - does anyone else in his class wear glasses? I can't give any advice as I am blind and also refuse to waer glasses even now will only wear them behind a wheel!

Morning!

Just started a long reply and then stupid mouse fell over and wiped it all away!

It's a Dora fest in my house this morning! All mindees and dd are playing with Dora things! If I have to hear the theme (on the Dora laptop) one more time I'm going to have to hide the damn thing in the outdoor bin!!!

Been painting already this morning and now put it all away before the whole house ends up in a mess!

Hope you are ok Crace and your day isn't too bad.

Sorry to hear about your dd Mo. Not looking forward to dd growing up! my sister was a nightmare growing up! I was an angel so hoping she will take after me

Hope it goes ok with Ofsted DMO.

hi to everyone else too

SB - if you ever lose it again, do Ctrl + Z (basically the shortcut for Undo) and you will get it back again!

SYmpathies on Dora (shiver)

Kay, a couple of them do and I have no idea why he wouldn't wear them, he got lots of positive attention when he started wearing them! Kids

Oh, and sorry dp's ex is being a wacko. Been there, except it was exdp's wife (ds' ex stepmom, they are divorced now, thank god) who got a little too attached to ds. Long story but ick. She had him calling her "mama" and everything. Very aggravating and hurtful. I don't envy you being the stepmum though, must be a tricky world.

DMO, get all your parents to fil in and sign an explanation of what happend and letting them put their own note on the bottom, make sure you have it in incidents and accidents file and show as risk assesment of improvements you have now made(even if you havent, WE all know it was a one off) to ensure it doesnt happen again(ie: wrist straps.day glo tabards, whistles, flares..im sure youll be fine

Morning all.

Just wanted to thank everyone for their lovely messages about DH. Sorry I never got back in yesterday, whilst baby was napping I was sorting some piles of stuff in my bedroom as dh is planning on decorating our bedroom soon

I'm sooooooooo tired today!! Had a chinese last night to celebrate dh's job and I was so full, I couldn't make it up the stairs and fell asleep on the sofa whilst it settled - woke up at 1.40am and dh was fast asleep on the floor So we went to bed and of course now I feel like I haven't slept!

Anyway......

crace - hope you feel better soon. I really feel for you as I know how awful it was when I had flu recently and couldn't take anything for it. Hope the rest of the week is as easy as it can be for you! No advice on the glasses, must be very hard!

EM- Enjoy your day off. Hope your dd's knee isn't too bad

Mo - nightmare, I'm sooooo not wanting my boy(s) to grow up, ds is bad enough already!!!

ML, KayS & SB - hello

DMO - poor thing, I'd be a nervous wreck however Mo is right, it's just Ofsted doing their job and I'm sure all will be fine. Is it just a chat or are they inspecting at the same time?

Right, I need some advice please.....One of my new babies is a 9 month old boy whose not used to being without his mummy. Started on 15th Feb (remember, my birthday was a nightmare!) So far he's had 2 hours on that Fri, then 1 and half hours on the Monday then Friday he should have had 4 hours but as his mum text and said to let her know if he wouldn't stop crying, I replied back and she decided to collect him an hour early. He's basically cried the whole time, can't get him focused on anything to calm him down really, did a few times but if a moved the slightest bit to get something (he was on my knee), he'd start and then wouldn't calm down again. It stopped him having his nap on Friday which is why he got in such a state as he was over-tired.

The baby who is sleeping atm was very anxious without her mum and mum did say she's like that without her, even with family. BUT...I managed to crack that very quickly and she's an angel already. In fact, day 1 of proper care she was 100% fine. So the 3 settling in sessions were fine and tbh, it was the 1st one which was the worst.

How do you know whether or not a child is going to settle eventually? I have him tomorrow and thank god dh offered to take ds to school so I don't have to rush off on the school run as soon as he's dropped off. I'm hoping this one just needs a little more time but how do you know? He's only 4 hours, once a week and it's only until I go on maternity leave. This tiny baby I have would probably have that space if he wasn't here but I'm not going to dump him just for that, I just feel awful about the state he gets himself into Any advice? I've just never come across this before, even though I've had lots of babies start with me, maybe because they were younger when they started?

TIA

looney - i think 9months ia clingy age - goodluck with it though - i think i would just go for it and do the whole session , i'm sure he'll get used to you!!

oh yeah - hello everyone

day off today and ds at pre-school

i'm really not enjoying childminding at the moment - been feeling like this for a few weeks now

Just back from group. Yes, planning on doing whole session and wanted to last time but mum was insistant in picking up early and wanted to know if he'd been crying a lot. If she'd have collected and then found out he'd cried but I hadn't told her like she requested, she'd have been upset. I just wanted to know if anyone has had really bad screaming type crying for most of the sessions each time? Must go and do baby's lunch, be back later

Afternoon all. I have completed my interview outfit this morning. Been to buy a beautiful pair of black trousers. Wide leg with a turn up and longer length! I can never get longer length. So, I've tried it all on and DH came in just as I was full clothed and he was impressed!

Now LOONEY, 9 mth old. My plaster baby is only 2 days a week and was about 8 months when she started. Its fair to say, that it was damn hard! She cried contantly. Every time I looked at her, got near her or was even in the same room as her! It was really hard work. The only time she was quite was when there was food in her mouth, but even that was between screams! Because she was eating fine, I knew it was purely a separation thing, so we kept going. I think from memory it took about 3 months to really get a good rappor with her, but you have to remember she was only 2 days a week, so that only amounts to 24 days (3 1/2 weeks) It was such a long time between her being in my house from Tuesday pm right round to Monday am again. Now, mum doesn't even get a kiss goodbye and she drags her to the door to wave her off, if, that is she hasn't spotted DH, then no-one gets a look in! In fact, its got the stage where I'm embarrassed when her dad picks her up, because she won't let go of DH!

I have to say, I may have told a few white lies about exactly how much time she spent crying, when her mum asked! Its the only way, if you are confident that its just a separation thing. Its not going to do anyone any favours to keep pandering to it tbh. Tough love, I know, when he is so little, but they're clever little bunnies!