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Changing childminder

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Wifetobe23 · 11/07/2023 19:29

My daughter has been with her childminder coming up for a year now, settled in amazingly and is treated like one of the family. Childminder is amazing and only has my daughter and her son 3 days a week (I work 4 days but my aunt has her 1 of the days but I’m not sure this is a long term solution)
my SIL has recently set up a childcare setting close to home after being a childminder for 4+ years elsewhere. She has amazing reviews and is the best aunt to my little one.
my husband has agreed to move my daughter to my SIL’s setting but I am not so sure. I love my SIL but my daughter is so well settled with her current childminder, although she only works 3 days and I need 4.
Im worried of the family repercussions and I don’t want to upset anyone - including my current childminder - what’s everyone’s thoughts?

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FlippityFlippityFlop · 11/07/2023 19:33

YANBU.
If she is settled I would keep her where she is. Could your sister have her for the 1 day a week that your Aunt does?

Wifetobe23 · 11/07/2023 19:43

She only wants the full 4 days 😩 - I want to keep him where she is but DH is adamant he wants her moved!

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FlippityFlippityFlop · 11/07/2023 19:56

Children do adapt easily. So if you do change her I am sure she will be ok. But, personally I think that when you employ family it can be a recipe for disaster.
What is DH reason - other than it's his sister? She shouldn't have any problems getting children to mind - there is a shortage of childcare throughout the country.
Also, have a think about when your child might naturally outgrow a childminder. Some children need the extra stimulation of a nursery setting from 3 or 4.
I would keep her where she is and look at other options on the 4th day (some nursery's will do just one day).

RandomMess · 11/07/2023 20:27

Never mix business with family!

She wants for 4 days because that suits her business.

jannier · 13/07/2023 19:32

Family childcare can ruin relationships I'd be very careful

lochmaree · 13/07/2023 19:41

I'd keep her where she is 100%!

Whereisthesun99 · 13/07/2023 22:53

I personally would not move if settled, plus childminders can not usually offer the fund hours at 2/3/4 for children related to them, so maybe worth asking your local LA if your sil would be able to offer it to you first before you move.

jannier · 15/07/2023 20:51

Whereisthesun99 · 13/07/2023 22:53

I personally would not move if settled, plus childminders can not usually offer the fund hours at 2/3/4 for children related to them, so maybe worth asking your local LA if your sil would be able to offer it to you first before you move.

No she couldn't get funded hours unless she's planning on lying.

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