Furious with in laws!

[Bigjohnandthekids]

Apologies if this is all over the place I’m seething with anger. My partners in laws invited us and our 5 little ones over for an Easter party, we have always had a strained relationship with the in laws as they seek to undermine our parenting choices. We have raised our little ones on a strictly dairy free organic diet, any excessive sugar sends the little ones absolutely loopy for hours resulting in an all mighty sugar crash! Our in laws are well aware of the way I’m which we raise the children, well low and behold we arrive at the Easter party to baskets full of cheep sugar ridden dairy milk eggs for the children!! I was furious we had spoken to the in laws prior offering to provide suitable eggs for the baskets but they insisted they were capable of doing it them selves.. capable my arse!! Needless to say the children were running round like maniacs all night and had an all mighty crash, the littlest one has been ill ever since. I’m absolutely irate and don’t know how to handle this going forward!!

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Chill your boots and let them have some chocolate.

I'm a veggie since 1984 but you for goodness sakes let them have some fun in life. Kids need abalanced diet to sustain themselves, let them decide when they are older what they can eat.

My partners in laws

Your partners in laws would surely be your parents? Your children will be fine.

Seething with anger is a bit extreme. Your reaction is way over the top.

they have zero respect for you. you have every right to flip your lid here, god knows how you didn't kick off there and then. you offered to provide it yourself so it seems like a deliberate offence. don't bother with them again

Brilliant parody!

(Mightily amused by cheep eggs)

They’ve never had masses of sugar and clearly have an awful reaction when they do, there’s a reason why we raise our children this way. The kids never complain and we are fine with how things are. Not the advice I asked for

If you're so strict about your dc's diets, then it may backfire on you later on when they go on playdates and school events, and when they have opportunity to buy their own snacks. I think it might be helpful in the long run to unclench a bit.

Yes, it's not great that the gps didn't follow your preferences, but it's not the end of the world.

The cheep eggs is a classic.

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Thank you! I was irate, whether they agree with how we raise them or not there’s better ways to go about this than to undermine our parenting. All the kids are complaining of stomach aches now and are upset with their grandparents for making them ill. So upsetting to see

Hmm yes, very good.

You could have taken back control and said we'll have just one egg now and left the rest till later/another time. Grandparents want to spoil their grandchildren - that is their role whether you like it or not! Irate indeed.

Your partner’s in laws??

It's your fault they are ill because you let them eat the "baskets full of cheep eggs". 🤷🏻‍♀️

The oldest is at the age of birthday parties now and we always offer to take our own snacks and treats so they don’t feel left out, the other kids enjoy eating the snacks we provide too so he still feels included. It’s a shame that other parents in the class respect our choices more than my partners family :(

we have always had a strained relationship with the in laws as they seek to undermine our parenting choices

I mean...some of this is on you. You know that they undermine you, and you still go. You could have stopped your children from eating the chocolate in the baskets, but you didn't.

whether they agree with how we raise them or not there’s better ways to go about this than to undermine our parenting.

I don't disagree with this at all, but there's also better ways to parent than to constantly put your children in the middle of this situation.

(You being generic you, of course; and including your husband. And I am presuming this is legit, and not a parody of something I've missed...)

Lame as fuck effort.

I should think having their own food at a party would make them feel more left out.

The oldest is at the age of birthday parties now

Eh? That's 2. You have 4 others who are under 2?

I would understand if it was a genuine allergy. My DS has severe allergies and my on laws are fucking useless about it (like the time they booked a restaurant that only served a type of food he is dangerously allergic to, then moaned when we didn't go).

If not though then it's a choice you've made but a bit of sugar won't hurt.

I understand what your saying we keep seeing them as we feel guilty not letting the little ones have a relationship with their grandparents but after this it seems time to cut chord!

I’m honestly not judging but with 5 children you should probably marry your partner for your own protection.