All Mums out there - how can I encourage 2yo mindee to develop a pincer grip??

[chel86]

I'm tackling things one at a time and decided that the pincer grip is as good as any of the other issues.

So, how can I encourage mindee's pincer grip? He cannot/will not hold cutlery, or a pen, or pick up food with his fingers, but with food he will dive in and grab with both hands.

I've tried putting small objects in front of him to pick up, but he's not interested.

Chel, you are doing fab and I agree with what Katy says about eventually getting the info to the parents.

As a mum to an autistic boy I can understand the need to hide away from obvious missed milestones. It's a very difficult road to travel, and I could tell my childminder at the time was in agony to have to be the one to "break the news" to me.

Hang in there Chel, you are fab and they are lucky to have you.

Thank you for all your suggestions. I have started them today with bits of food. Will be a slow process but we will get there!! Having a particularly bad day with screaming/wingeing/tantrums as well.

chel86, it sounds like you are working really hard to help this LO.

Can you not chat the the HV again and get some ideas from her, perhaps suggesting this LO's HV contact the family and 'do' his 2 yr check. These may not happen in all areas.

How does he play? Does he just bang toys togeter or throw them? Not know how to play is a classic developmental delay pointer.

If he doesn't know how to play, you may have to teach him - going right back to the basics with a treasure basket of different textures and describing his play and actions. I always felt like a right wally, "X is feeling the green flannel, the flannel is soft. X puts down the flannel and picks up the cotton reel the cottong reel is hard etc"

FWIW - regarding this not being picked up - no one listened to me when I told them my DS didn't 'do' things as he should (not my first) and it took me a hard bloody fight to see a developmental paed when he was 20 mths).

Good luck.