Facebook grandparents

[Pinkgrass]

Does anyone else have "Facebook" grandparents. My parents constantly post on Facebook about how much they love my children with photos of them etc making it appear that they see them regularly but they don't. Theyv visited 3 times since June (when my second baby was born) they live 40 minutes drive away, both in good health and drive etc, also don't work....

Could you go over to theirs?

I did do twice weekly which because too much with 2 young children and I work. Used to visit one evening through the week and one weekend day. Iv since reduced these visits to once a month but constantly get hounded "when you bringing the kids to see us" they know where we live but chose not to visit?

I think if you see them monthly and they've visited 3 times then that's a decent amount. Many grandparents don't see their grandchildren for months due to distance etc...

Loving a grandchild isn't defined by amounts of visits etc...
They've brought up their own kids, perhaps they just want to enjoy the fun parts of grandchildren.

I'm guessing they are not young, why can't you take them to see their grandparents, maybe the travel is too much. I don't see any issue. Maybe they are just proud grandparents and like showing them off to their friends and other family. As someone else said love isn't measured by how often grandparents visit.

I know what you mean by this. My in laws are these type of ‘social media’ grandparents. live 30 mins away and arrange a short visit once every 6 weeks or so. The pictures are on Facebook and insta before they’ve even left.
It doesn’t help that in contrast I’ve got not many pictures of my parents with the dc and they look after them both 3 days a week. They say they are too busy looking after them to take pictures!
so I get where you are coming from for sure!

Yes we have these too. Takes pictures off of my profile/uses photos other family members have sent and puts them as profile picture etc on Facebook. Gets lots of comments from friends. In reality they visit the kids a couple of times a year, and only call on birthdays/Christmas. (We don't visit them for various reasons).

They can still love them very much even if they don’t see them very often.

I understand what you're saying @Sunshinerose1 - it feels like a performance. Must be tough.

It wouldn’t cross my mind to post a pic of any of my GC on Facebook. I see them at least once a week

Both of our sets of parents are like this. Barely look at the kids if they're in the same room, make absolutely no effort with them but as soon as there's an audience (i.e. one of their friends around who is an actual active grandparent) or a picture they can put on Facebook about them they do it. Makes them look all involved and like they're trying to be grandparents of the fucking year. Drives me absolutely mental.

I don't think how much they visit can measure their love, but I do think a difference in behaviour in real life and social media is weird. We have family members who see the kids twice a year as they live in a different country. The difference is, they regularly call the DC, ask questions about their life and make an effort to stay involved. And when they do visit, they are active and involved, unlike the Facebook relatives.