cross , upset c/m.

[MaNa1]

Hi all c/ms I've been a c/m for 17yrs and never been so worried / cross. Yesterday sunday I had parent's come round to see me about placing their 1yr old with me . On the phone before visit mum had said hours were 7am-7pm [fine but 6.30pm would have been better, but their needs are more important so said yes. Then after getting house prepaired like a working week they came round. No baby as it's abroad with Gparents untill they find someone. I showed them all paper work ect then she asked more than once what the getting out of contract time would be - I said'4weeks', suddenly she said she had wanted a private nursery but the hours were no good, and as there is one at the end of my road would I have the child from 7am-8am and take it to the nursery and pick up at 6pm - 7pm. Well I found myself getting very cross and said well Im not prepaired to do that. Am I right?. I feel if I'm not good enough all day then I'm no good at all .Then I explained its really not fair on your child toing and throwing. Pls give me yor opinions as I'm begining to feel we're being asked to work very long hours as it is, plus all the course's and were only needed for the taxing of school run's.Thankyou, sorry not very good at explaining myself on a laptop. Re on going thread - I am only looking after my Granddaughter today so Im aloud to use laptop, plus have a cuppa .Maybe a peeee without rushing or bursting my blader

I think she was a bit off to not explain what she wanted right from the start. I wouldn't do it. (I am a mum, not a c/m but was a nanny).

Good grief! The bloody cheek of some people! You are complete right to feel p*ssed off, I most certainly would not accommodate someone who made me feel that worthless!

I'm not a c/m either just a mum who uses one. Think of yourself as having a lucky break, imagine if you had taken her child, she sounds like quite a "demanding" customer.

i don,t know whats wrong with us as childminder? which seams best for the children cm or nursery ?
i faced that so many time ,the parents thinks the nursery is much much better than cm or cheaper,and am sure they wrong.

Yes, I think I would be quite offended! She's looking for an aupair! OH bless you, sounds like you handled it quite well.

What an odd one. So, she wants to know if you are interested in starting your day at 7:00am and finishing at 7:pm for a whole 2 hours of pay?

Tempting as it sounds, ummm... NO!

And, anothre thing, does she think the nursery is going to let her off with less than 4 weeks notice? I doubt. Some of them require 3 months notice.

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I'd have said - 'Yes of course I will. However, I'll have to charge for a full day as I may not be able to fill the space inbetween' and smile VERY sweetly, before telling her to fo forth and multiply!

Yes, you have every right to be cross!

Sally x

went thru the same with my client. last minute change sayin i want yu to have my child btwn 7am and 8am then drop him at nursery till six and pick him up till 7pm. now client just vanished. i had left my job to mind her child thinkin it was goin to be 7am to 7pm.

Sounds a bit rude and unrealistic, and I'm a fairly new mum just preparing to leave my baby with the cm I've found. Hope your next contact with mindee parents is more constructive!

Yes, I feel you are right to refuse. It's coming back to this flexible childcare thing again. While the parents may want you to work the hour before and after nursery... for you as a business that isn't viable.

OMG, my three are in nursery and I would never dream of asking someone to do this! It would never in a million years occur to me that they would agree! No, she needs an au-pair and she needs to provide the au-pair with her own transport. Or they need to talk to their respective employers about cutting hours. Or a live in Nanny on good money! Anything but the scenario you desribe, in fact!

This is a common problem people seem to assume that anyone who looks after children will become a lapdog for a 'career'woman its unfair these children should be the most precious thing in your life and their care should be at the forefront of the mind not scooting around asking people to do things like this ......i put good childcare above good shoes .....

Dippydeedo, that was not a very nice post. Suggest you remember who your customers are and try not to insult themin person as you have insulted working moms generally on here just now.

This woman is not thinking straight. Perhaps because she is new to the childcare game and is still shell shocked over discovering the cost. Perhaps she is stingy.

But to stereo type working mums the way you have is really quite offensive.

No eleusis if you are a working mum you are CHOOSING your childcare and as for customers? im not a childminder ......have been a nanny to several lovely families and as their is good and bad childcare there are good and bad parenting opinions over childcare fees basically you have to pay for quality i certainly wouldnt expect a childminder to give like that lady suggested .....would you? in which case i suggest you think straighter.
I certainly meant no offence to working mums funnily enough i was/am one myself.....all im saying is to know boundaries and respect other peoples jobs.

I have already (very clearly) voiced my disapproval of this mum's request.

But, you post is still rather offensive. Particularly the bit where you say you rate good childcare above new shoes, implying that the "common problem" to which you refer with working woman is that they don't.

Oh a nanny.. well then I suggest you learn to respect your employers rather than your customers. Same point really.

eleusis seeing as only you have voiced you opinion on my comment it would appear everyone else read it in the sense it was made.
im not going to continually justify myself and my thoughts to you my opinion was based around the mothers request not every single working mother.

I agree with Eleusis.

well if you read my comments you will see i had no desire to tar all working mums.

dippy, you did say it was a common problem! I can't think of anyone in my acquaintance who would ask such a thing of a childminder and mos people do treat the person who minds their child with a good deal of respect!

Dippy, I think that justifying your (offensive) comments is not really helping your case. Especially as it is now evident that I am not the only wise mumsnetter to hold my views.

I wonder if MNtowers gives an award for the most appropriate MN alias?

Hi Schaden. How the heck are you? What country you living in these days?

Back to the original posting, I think they are being very unreasonable and hope you find a mutual conclusion or another family as you sound a lovely CM.

I wonder if MNtowers gives an award for the most appropriate MN alias?

are we getting personel here eleusis?? i hope not

I think they were unreasonable too. I'm not a cm or nanny, but I wouldn't even dream of asking a cm that question!