When I was pregnant ex and I had discussed moving further south. Mostly for work and my wish to complete my degree, better opportunities, be a family etc. I have social housing and something like 12 years right to buy. Ex has always lived with his parents. I tested the waters while I was pregnant and found quite a few others wishing to exchange homes. So a move is very likely possible. We are the Midlands.
The relationship broke down shortly after dd was born. I exclusively bf for 7 months so assumed bulk care and he never lived with us so meant 24/7 me pretty much. His whole personality changed when dd was born and he's taken advantage of my emotional state (me doing everything) ever since. He had 2-3hr access on Saturdays for a few months between 7-9m. That was me trying but that broke down too as it was at my home and the environment became hostile.
Past 3 months, he's seen dd 3 times. He completed MIAM in secret and we are now waiting for the first hearing. He is requesting every other weekend. Dd has some specific care needs (asthma/eczema) and is still breastfeed. I am contesting overnights for now but feel I will be unsuccessful after reading more and more about it. Ex is a passive-aggressive, mind-game player.
Ex says he no longer has any desire to move and he will stop me from moving with dd. I would still like to move and would like some input on what might happen if I move and advise him after.
I will still make whatever effort is required for dd to have a relationship with him as I tried to before but I want to move on and not feel trapped. I am currently overcrowded with another family member. Baby is 13 months. Is there anything specific he could use again me? He is very bitter.
Thoughts, please?