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[Anon9867]

So my daughter was at her dad's house for the weekend. Come 5.30pm I get a message from her to say she went home after playing out with her friends, his house is locked up in darkness and no ok is home. She's hysterical down the phone so I get in my car and go and collect her. By this time she had been alone for 15 mins. He dad arrives prior to me getting there and shouts at her to use her fucking head and she should called her. Also saying well done and thanks a lot etc. Not sure why she was in the wrong for calling me? He has minimal contact and she was frightened so naturally you call your mum? He has messaged today and told me that it's my fault and I should of left her there for him to deal with. He can't see that him going out and leaving her without telling her where he was going in the dark is wrong

How old is your daughter?

She is 10 years old

As she has a phone he should have texted her his whereabouts just in case. Or he could have given her a key.

While calling him would have been the most logical solution, calling you in a panic because of an unfamiliar situation isn't unreasonable at all. If she'd sat outside his house crying and panicking for those 15 minutes then your ex might be dealing with the police or social services today.

Do not bother saying anything to him at the moment as it will get you no where.

He needs to learn to communicate with his 10 year old child.

Next time you can be bothered to say something to him simply state children do not think like adults.

That's horrendous. He sounds like a right nasty piece of work. How is your DD? Does she actually want to see him, or does she go because she thinks she has to? It was unacceptable for him to speak to her that way, and I hope she knows she did the right thing by calling you.

Oh and this is a parenting issue not a childcare issue so in the wrong part of MN.

Regardless neither you nor you DD were in the wrong.