21 month old seems angry / upset and sleeping badly after starting nursery

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We started our little one in a childminders this week!

im starting work in a month so we did it a month before to give him some time to settle.

when he was 18 months we tried a bigger nursery but he couldn’t settle.

We went for a childminders and he loved the visits with us there. Now at both drop offs the first week he’s been in tears! He naps ok there though and calms down to play.

however his sleep has gone to rubbish since this! We’ve had bedtime battles - he gets angry at bedtime… we’ve had night wakings! I’m assuming it’s some separation anxiety.

we usually use Ferber, but atm when he wakes I give him 10 mins and if his cries escalate I go in for cuddles and put him back down when calm.

not necessarily looking for tips, just someone who’s been through this and tells me it will get better!!

I can’t get over how you let him cry for ten minutes tbh. When you think he’s suffering from separation anxiety. That seems harsh.

@WeCome1 thank you for your opinion but I will be ignoring your opinion. I don’t let him cry. He’s in bed moaning and if it’s escalated to a cry I see to him. I know my son best.

Giving him 10 mins to have a little moan is not an issue at all and it gives children chance to have a go at self settling. You absolutely know your child best and yes it will get better. I’ve been a nanny, a childminder and am also a mummy of now teenagers. Trust your instincts, my first born was a terrible sleeper! They eventually grow out of it. Good luck! Xx

It does get better!

He's just getting used to his new routine and you not being there.

My child cried at nursery drop offs for afew weeks then he started running in without giving me a second look.

It's hard but hang in there! I think it's good you've done it prior to going back to work.

He's napping and calms down that's the main thing

Sounds completely normal! He's had a big change to his routine and children show this in many different ways! It'll pass x As a childminder, my children usually come in very happily in the mornings, but sometimes they cry because they maybe want to be at home still, or want to stay with Mummy, which is completely normal. I do very quick doorstep handovers and text parents a short while later to let them know that they're OK