Should we change nursery

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Dd 3 is currently in a private school nursery which is lovely- however even with the funding we are paying four times what our friends are paying and with our mortgage up for renewal in Sep and the huge increase in energy costs we are wondering whether to move her to the same nursery they use.
The other nursery is ok. It's not quite as nice and the room is a bit smaller with more kids but that's to be expected and there is more on a focus on play and a lovely outside area rather than moving towards a school type setting in the private school nursery. One of her friends also goes there and there will be kids going who will attend her primary school. We are both teachers and aren't bothered about this and my husband also thinks she will be treated differently to the much wealthier kids who will be staying on to go into the pre-prep. The private nursery does lovely things like swimming yoga etc included but we also do these with her anyway.
We can just about afford for her to stay at the private school one so I wonder if I'm being a bit selfish to move her to save on costs at a stickier time 😩 suffering with mum guilt majorly. Any thoughts?

When will your daughter start school? Our nursery is really expensive, and the funding barely makes a dent, and like you we've been really hit by the changes to mortgage repayments, to the extent we're actually going to move. We decided to stick put with our nursery because she's happy there and I knew the change could cause weeks of disruption. But, she's going to school this year, so we felt we could stomach the money. If you have a longer way to go, then do the move. Kids are so adaptable, and the fact she has a friend already will really help.

She would only be at the nursery for 9 months and then goes to school (we'd switch Sep 23 and school Sep 24). Savings are about £1500 for switching not including her uniform for the private nursey which is everything except pants and socks and also super expensive - about £40 for a coat along along with trousers, hats, summer dresses, t shirts and jumpers which all have to be branded 🫣

Will she be going to the private school?
Private nursery push an educational position that does not fit with current thinking
....the EYFS . If your sticking with the private system the discipline of sitting and listening would be taught from nursery but most early years theorists follow learning through play which do you think is important?
Personally I don't understand forcing children into a regimented school environment at 3 so I wouldn't endure financial hardship I think everyone would be happier without the stress and that makes lo happier

No we definitely won't. The parents are mostly vile snobs and my husband and I met while working in a private school & I quit due to disagreements with the way kids were taught etc

No SHE won't not we! 🤦🏼‍♀️

@jannier we thought the play aspect of the other nursey was really important before she's shoved into a school environment also, plus she is really bright and can read from her third birthday (we haven't pushed, she figured it out by phonics games weirdly)

Why did you send her there in the first place would be my question??? It seems crazy

Yes crazy to send her to a lovely nursery 🙄 we don't have anything with the parents and we're never planning on sending her to the school.