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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

Does everyone think childcare should be paid for?

332 replies

Cococomellon · 01/01/2023 16:43

I have seen a lot of posts in social media about the cost of childcare, that it should be free and all the reasons in favour of that such as allowing both parents to work and the impact on the economy.

I can see how this would be a benefit. I have a young child and pay for childcare but I planned for this and it is not a surprise to me.

Who pays for this "free" childcare? Is there spare money the government has squirrelled somewhere? Should we all pay more taxes? Will the nhs get even less funding? Schools?

Perhaps I am just very right wing as I don't see to see the counter- arguments but I'm sure many people (some who don't have children) don't want to pay for others children to go to nursery?

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jannier · 01/01/2023 19:26

Annie232 · 01/01/2023 18:20

That may be so but it is still very unfair and illogical

Why is it illogical to pay 9 to 15 hours childcare over one year..around £2850 ...to avoid an adult lifetime of weekly benefits, free prescriptions etc?

grumpycow1 · 01/01/2023 19:27

I think the issue is that the cost of childcare is so high in the UK compared to lots of other countries. This means a lot of mothers (because it does still tend to be the mum sadly) end up having to stay home, miss out on a few years career progression and therefore financially worse off in the long run. A more progressive society would even the costs out so it would allow mothers to afford to work if they want to. Here in the UK childcare can be more than your actual salary, how is that fair?! And combined with maternity pay being rubbish it’s just not geared up well for the average earner.

Nirvanarama · 01/01/2023 19:28

The idea that people should only have children if they can afford the childcare is a depressing one. It implies that people on low incomes shouldn't have children, which is naive at best and fairly evil at worst.

TheGirlWhoTamedTheDragon · 01/01/2023 19:28

MarshaMelrose · 01/01/2023 19:25

In theory, if there is free/low costs childcare for working parents then more parents will work and therefore more taxes will be paid.

But posters on here say that it costs nearly all their wages to send children to nursery. So if it's that expensive, won't the country just be paying out a lot more than they receive in tax? How is that beneficial?

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Read a book about economics, please.

Pleatsplease · 01/01/2023 19:28

Staying at home should be a privilege given to only those who can afford it (not me!!) without tax payer subsidy. We need people to be employed if they are physically/mentally able to work. We have a massive shortage of workers.

Employers should be made to pay a wage that people can live on without tax payer subsidy if they are working full time. Full time work should always pay more than benefits. Employers should be made to give proper contracts, terms and conditions. Flexible working for Dads needs to be the norm, like it is for Mums!

Parents should be prepared to share the burden of being a family, men need to pull their weight at home but equally women need to change their mindset and allow men to do this. Once children are in school, not as much childcare is needed if BOTH parents are working flexibly.

I’m not sure heavily subsidised childcare is the answer, it’s making work pay and encouraging women to work. And that money comes out of the pockets of employers not the tax payer.

grumpycow1 · 01/01/2023 19:28

And this doesn’t mean I think it should be free, or the childcare providers get less. I think there should be a genuine subsidy that doesn’t affect the quality of care.

Alfiexx1 · 01/01/2023 19:30

Pleatsplease · 01/01/2023 19:28

Staying at home should be a privilege given to only those who can afford it (not me!!) without tax payer subsidy. We need people to be employed if they are physically/mentally able to work. We have a massive shortage of workers.

Employers should be made to pay a wage that people can live on without tax payer subsidy if they are working full time. Full time work should always pay more than benefits. Employers should be made to give proper contracts, terms and conditions. Flexible working for Dads needs to be the norm, like it is for Mums!

Parents should be prepared to share the burden of being a family, men need to pull their weight at home but equally women need to change their mindset and allow men to do this. Once children are in school, not as much childcare is needed if BOTH parents are working flexibly.

I’m not sure heavily subsidised childcare is the answer, it’s making work pay and encouraging women to work. And that money comes out of the pockets of employers not the tax payer.

Flexible work is the norm for dads, anyone is entitled to making flexible working requests, doesn’t matter if you’re a parent, male or female.

AnotherAppleThief · 01/01/2023 19:31

Lenald · 01/01/2023 19:11

You shouldn’t have to subsidise for parents. You have a right to warm a decent wage - the same right is not extended to many working Mothers when CC is taken into consideration.

blame the government not the parents.

I do blame the government, they are cheapskates who underfund the current funded provision and hence my desire to not eosh to be subjected to more of it. And by the way, I am also a working mother.

Alfiexx1 · 01/01/2023 19:32

Nirvanarama · 01/01/2023 19:28

The idea that people should only have children if they can afford the childcare is a depressing one. It implies that people on low incomes shouldn't have children, which is naive at best and fairly evil at worst.

It implies nothing of the sort, some of it will be down to wondering how a parent can properly support a family if they can’t afford childcare.

Children are expensive, to give them a good life especially so, if you can’t afford childcare how are you going to afford a good life for them after they start school?

jannier · 01/01/2023 19:32

Alfiexx1 · 01/01/2023 19:23

But why not?

If anything the person on 200k should have more thrown at them because they’ll be constituting far more to the economy and paying far more in tax than those on less than half of that.

Because if they are earning that much they don't need state help which is why they pay £000s more than the average in childcare fees. I bet they took the grant for utilities support and wasted it whilst elderly were freezing too. It's just wrong like picking up more food than you can eat because it's free and your first in the qué while others go hungry. .....it like our last PMs idea of cutting tax for the rich to boost the economy.

AllIwantforChristmas22 · 01/01/2023 19:33

I am from a country where childcare is very heavily subsidised and nearly free. NOBODY has more children because if that, in fact the country has one of the lowest birth rates in Europe and struggled with aging. The benefits of subsidied childcare are well documented incl helping women stay in the labour market and giving ALL children the same opportunities from a very young age. That women argue against it baffles me!

And yes I have children and I can afford childcare and I also accept my taxes go to things I don’t personally need/want. It’s called living in a society.

felulageller · 01/01/2023 19:34

It's crazy economics that we don't do this.

No wonder our economy is failing.

We spend billions educating women only to have the 80% who have DC's to suffer detriment in the workplace, underemployment, discrimination, poverty, social exclusion, homelessness, etc etc because of the barrier of a lack of free community controlled childcare available to all mothers as and when needed.

It's such a massive waste of resources and potential. Underemployment of mothers costs us all billions every year.

The only reason for not doing it is misogyny.

Alfiexx1 · 01/01/2023 19:36

jannier · 01/01/2023 19:32

Because if they are earning that much they don't need state help which is why they pay £000s more than the average in childcare fees. I bet they took the grant for utilities support and wasted it whilst elderly were freezing too. It's just wrong like picking up more food than you can eat because it's free and your first in the qué while others go hungry. .....it like our last PMs idea of cutting tax for the rich to boost the economy.

They don’t need state help, but the state should want to encourage those on higher salaries to continue working and contributing to the economy and the tax system as a whole.

Littlebluedinosaur · 01/01/2023 19:36

There should be some support (other than the tax free childcare scheme) before the age of three. It’s crazy really that I’m paying more than my mortgage for childcare for ages 1 to 2, two years, before the 30 hours kick in. It would be better to have a smaller subsidy starting after maternity leave.

yellowspanner · 01/01/2023 19:38

I don't agree with free childcare. It's not free. Taxpayers would be paying for it.

Alfiexx1 · 01/01/2023 19:39

yellowspanner · 01/01/2023 19:38

I don't agree with free childcare. It's not free. Taxpayers would be paying for it.

no shit Sherlock

Natsku · 01/01/2023 19:39

It should be subsidised enough to be affordable to all families so parents don't have to give up work because they can't afford childcare.
I live in Finland where its heavily subsidised, I was paying 20 euros a month for my son while he was in the younger group that has higher ratios, now he is in the older class I pay nothing. If I had a higher income I'd be paying more as fees are on a sliding scale, but there's a very reasonable maximum (something around 250e a month for one child). If I had to pay a lot I'd not send him to nursery and then he'd miss out on the social development and his Finnish skills would be much worse so he would struggle when he starts school which would then cost more as the school would have to provide extra support. Children going to nursery before starting school makes the switch to school and learning easier so that makes things easier for the teachers. The benefits go to more than just the parents.

Nirvanarama · 01/01/2023 19:41

Alfiexx1 · 01/01/2023 19:32

It implies nothing of the sort, some of it will be down to wondering how a parent can properly support a family if they can’t afford childcare.

Children are expensive, to give them a good life especially so, if you can’t afford childcare how are you going to afford a good life for them after they start school?

I'm not sure what your definition of a "good life" is so I'll brush over that.

But speaking personally, I can't afford childcare which hugely limits the amount of shifts I am able to take on in my job. Once they are at school, I will take on more shifts. It's pretty simple.

MotherOfRatios · 01/01/2023 19:44

We have an ageing population which is costly to the economy.

as someone in my mid/late 20s I don't understand why this government can't adequately fund housing and childcare. These are two major factors which take a large chunk of people's wages (I also think wages should be higher, but that's a separate argument)

A big reason why I don't know if I can have kids, is because of housing costs but also childcare Costs are ridiculous.

If we don't make it more appealing to have kids we're going to struggle.

other countries fund childcare and the quality is still good we should aim for this imo.

Alfiexx1 · 01/01/2023 19:44

Nirvanarama · 01/01/2023 19:41

I'm not sure what your definition of a "good life" is so I'll brush over that.

But speaking personally, I can't afford childcare which hugely limits the amount of shifts I am able to take on in my job. Once they are at school, I will take on more shifts. It's pretty simple.

Well a decent life, being able to travel, school trips, clubs, not depriving your children of experiences due to costs.

Unfortunately many people have children and just get by, those are the children who often then struggle throughout life, with poor prospects.

Children should be able to thrive, not simply survive. And unfortunately those not able to afford childcare often can’t do that.

dottiedodah · 01/01/2023 19:47

What happens about low paid families,single parents and so on? Most people do not have free cc from families . It seems unfair on children.Less people can afford an SAHP these days .Some sort of Government help should be avaliable surely

jannier · 01/01/2023 19:48

Alfiexx1 · 01/01/2023 19:36

They don’t need state help, but the state should want to encourage those on higher salaries to continue working and contributing to the economy and the tax system as a whole.

The encouragement for those with that much money is already there in their lifestyles..they go abroad, weekends away, new cars, new clothes, dinners out, eat expensive foods whilst those in need can't put the heat on. Why do you think Trusses policies were so divisive? Those on the high salaries are not going to give up work to live on the bread line and use food banks, or give up their homes because benefits don't pay for their expensive houses.

Yaslana · 01/01/2023 19:52

jannier · 01/01/2023 19:11

I'm not saying they do need more I think funding should be paid for the hours you work plus commute as it is I have parents getting 10 hours more than they need at school who are only term time then having to pay for 14 weeks childcare in other settings....and get tax credits....
If access to childcare automatically meant you worked as long as you could they would all be working 10 hours a week more.

If you're working full time then you should be able to pay towards your own childcare? Its subsidised and is short term

NearlyMidnight · 01/01/2023 19:52

But it's not just about economics - its about social behaviour as well.
Already there's growing feeling that those who work are getting screwed. There are people who reduce their working hours in order to maximise their benefits income. And non-workers often treat those working, (call centre workers, retail staff, receptionist, waiting staff in particular), like shit.

So fewer people want to do it. So do we recruit cheap labour from poorer countries, force people to work or what??

A single person who has worked full time from 17 - 66 pays tax and is far worse off, will never get free prescriptions, paid sabbatical time or a council house or help with anything.

A woman who has six kids, never had a job, no partner and done nothing will be financially better off than a couple both in low paid jobs, renting privately. She has no incentive to do anything different. And whilst providing childcare may or may not help the kids all it really does is make it easier for her to have more - to the detriment of her existing kids. (And the feckless fathers have NO disincentive at all as they don't have to contribute anything - and if they stay on benefits their kids cost them nothing at all)

LadyFlumpalot · 01/01/2023 19:53

I reckon work places should provide on site subsidised crèches (within reason, obviously it wouldn't work for all jobs). Much like I can plug my kids into the soft play at Ikea or a kids club on holiday. Childcare providers get paid properly for their services from the company, working parents don't have to worry about the journey from/to childcare and the companies win by encouraging parents (and therefore talented colleagues) back to work by taking some of the financial burden off them.