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50 / 50 shared parenting. Why does mom get all the childcare benefits?

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Lusciously · 24/11/2022 11:20

A male friend of mine has split from his girlfriend 6 months ago. They have a 1 year old child together. Mom stayed in the house whilst dad carried on paying half. Dad picks up 1 year old midday Sunday and then drops her to mom's about 6:30pm on Wednesdays. They live in different counties (as he had to move in with his sister) and both work full time. Child goes to two different nurseries. Dad pays childcare Monday, Tuesday & Wednesday and Mom pays Thursday and Friday. Mom claims child benefit and gets tax-free childcare. Dad can't get any financial help and is struggling with the cost of childcare, cost of petrol, paying half rent on the house mom is living in and paying sister rent. He wants to get his own place but he is struggling to save anything. Why is mom able to get all the child benefit and tax-free childcare, but, dad can't get anything?Is there any financial help he can get?

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Sezdora · 17/06/2025 11:23

Hi need a little advice.

My son has just been granted 50% custody on his son via the courts.
He' was laid off work last year now claiming Universal credit.
The mother claims for working part time but infact works full time getting cash in hand , she gets all the benefits for my grandson . She also gets child maintenance via child maintenance services. Etc.
My son gets very little money every month I have been supporting him as much as I can . Is there any help out there for him now he has 50% custody. Advice is much appreciated. Thanks ❤️

arethereanyleftatall · 17/06/2025 13:05

surely getting a job would be a priority for him then @Sezdora?

Sezdora · 17/06/2025 14:03

arethereanyleftatall · 17/06/2025 13:05

surely getting a job would be a priority for him then @Sezdora?

Well that is clearly obvious !

jetlag92 · 17/06/2025 20:59

This has nothing to do with paid childcare. It's around nannies, childminders, nurseries and it doesn't even sounds as if you're in the UK.

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