Childcare

[Mummyofboy]

Hope this is ok to post FTM, my little boy goes to childcare 2/3 times a week and other days goes to my partners mums she was fantastic with him at first and now feels like novelty has worn off she picks at the slightest thing which could be anything from dribbling a bit of milk or water out so it goes on his top or not eating all his food and recently his behaviour have changed completely he screams when I put him in his car seat same with pushchair and if we pull up at her house then he will hold the buckle of the car seat so we can’t get him out but soon as he has no contact with her for a few days he’s back to his normal happy self and now she will have ago at me as he worse than what her kids were but trying to explain parenting has changed since her youngest was a baby/toddler I’ve said to my partner about it but he said that’s about right with her do I stop her from seeing my lb has anyone been through anything similar! 😒

I think there is a world of difference between going no contact with her, and getting he to look after him for 1/2 the week when you are at work.

Maybe now is the time to move him to Childminder or Nursery Full time.
Potentially she wanted to help you out, but now she actually is doing so, she is realising it is too much now she is older. (and by that I mean, presumably 25 - 35 years older than when she was a Mum of babies / toddlers herself, not necessarily that she is "old").

That doesn't mean you need to stop her seeing your ds though.

I think stopping seeing her is abit OTT.

I agree that you probably need to think about other childcare arrangements.

Your son is probably feeling the negativity off her, you will probably find their relationship will change once the dynamic changes.