I couldn't fine the petty gripes about AP/Nanny thread, so I started another....

[nortynamechanger]

AIBU to be pissed off with my (stroppy French) AP?

My DS sleeps really badly (has SN, part of which is sleep disorder) has had both legs in plaster casts since Friday so he is very tired = hoping for a better night's sleep.

I went to bed at 10.30pm last night to be woken at 12.30am by telephone an hammering on the door.

Went down and opened the unlocked door to be greeted by AP accusing me of putting the deadlocks on. Erm, no I replied the door was just a bit stuck and wasn't even locked - she had already unlocked it. (Door has swollen due to deluge, have sandbags in front and has been like it for days).

DS didn't wake until 3.30am I could have had 5 hours of undisturbed sleep - bliss! Blardy daft AP!

I'd say not unreasonable to be upset that you had your sleep disturbed, but she had to get in, and did think that the door was locked, so couldn't do much else other than wake you up. I'd say she was unreasonable if she was off hand with you about it though (assuming if you had locked the door you'd have only done it by mistake), and would hope she was apologetic afterwards.

I know what you mean about being upset about the loss of undisturbed sleep though - DS2 wakes 2/3 times per night, and is up for the day at 5am, so anything that wakes me up is very annoying!

Why did your aupair have to phone AND hammer on the door? Surely, she should try one and if that does not work, the other, as she knows it is past midnight and the family asleep?

You used the word "accused". Was her tone accusatory? It sounded like she was in a mood. I would have thought she should give you the benefit of the doubt - my aupair comes and goes so much sometimes I can to check myself whether to set the burglar alarm before I go to bed.

Are relations already on the downward slide?

I would be pissed off.. at being woken up at 12.30, at her being rude to me you say in 1st line she's stroppy. is she stroppy at other times about other things?

I wouldn't like someone being stroppy in my home. I'd be tempted to get rid. unless it's a 1 off

I must admit, someone who can't work out the difference between a stuck door and a locked door would annoy me. I have had similar expereinces with say nannies who don't ever fold the pram because they can't work out how. Now I can accept that I more mechanically inclined than the average childcare worker... but really, I do expect them to be able to work out prams, hig chairs, etc.

If she was rude or accusatory I would be especially annoyed.

Ah Norty,....(big sigh)...the blardy stroppy French! I hope you were spitting venom when you saw her this morning.
She's going soon though non?

and you are so not being U

on the other hand.... when it is COLD and RAINING..... i am at the door with my key and am deadlocked out....

am locked out of ALL the external doors to which i have keys... and DO walk round the house trying them all

as a daily nanny that irritates me a little (fair to say it doenst happen often but when it does GRRR)

I can see why you were annoyed to have your preciouse sleep disrupted though

NannyL, the responses on here would be completely different if the deadbolt had been locked... but it wasn't.

bs the house is quite solid, very thick walls ec so I gues she had already been trying one and had gone for the both option. My broom is furthest from the front door and we don't have a phone upstairs in the bedroom, only in the office which has the door shut in eve/night so as not to wake the dc.

And yes, things have been on the downward slide since very early in the relationship. Around the time she inferred my DD was fat.

eleusis I know exactly where you are with the prams/highchairs etc, good lord if only you could add common sense to their coffee every morning - she can't even pair the DCs socks properly!

ingles oui! Off at the end of Feb, but really making so very little effort at the mo I may ask her to go earlier.

Nanny L luckily it wasn't raining and half a decent shove would have sorted it out. Sorry that you have been locked out before though.

Have also had words again this am...and breathe ..one..two..three...

norty, my sympathies - stroppy, tactless (fat implication) and no common sense (cannot sort socks) - I do remember your previous thread now.

If you can wait until end Feb, you are being very kind.