Hello

[AndyMan]

Hello!
I'm new to the forum so hi ... I'm a part time male childcare (after school club) worker and full time student. I've been working in childcare for the past 10 years on and off and I love the work, it's so rewarding being able to pass on new games, teach kids how to make things, be a good role model etc (I love going in the kitchen at work partly cos I love it and partly because it's so good for the kids to see men doing this kind of work in the same way it's good for them to see women being footballers, engineers etc). I nearly quit the industry after being physically assaulted at two different part time jobs - reported to management at one who just said 'thats how she is' and promised to have a quiet word, didn't bother at the other as bullying of anyone who wasn't in the white middle class female mould the rest of the majority the staff fall into in most schools seems sadly to be the norm in primary schools. This and the poor pay (zero hours, minimum wage etc) are the downsides. I wanted to ask advice on a couple of things that I've had come up; I've recently restarted work at an after school club I've worked at before, had issues with a female member of staff who was ignoring me / refusing to communicate with me on any level to the point of issuing instructions to children I was supervising based on rules she'd just made up (i.e. not the official rules of the club), undermining me in front of kids (e.g. telling kids not to sit at a certain table at snack when I'd said they could) and generally trying to cause trouble and get me 'done' for minor stuff (e.g. if there was bits of food left on utensils after I'd put them in the dishwasher, yes you did read that correctly). She's wasn't even in a management / supervisory position just on the casual staff same as me. In addition to the stuff that was going off with her behaviour towards me, she creeped me out a bit by how she was behaving. The norm for if a child in club wets themselves, for example, is that I'd encourage them to go in toilets change themselves if they were big enough and give them a change of clothes and a plastic bag to put soiled garments in to take home. If unavoidable I'd get an older sibling to help or as a last resort have another staff member or child with me as I passed them clean clothes over locked cubicle door for privacy.
This woman was going into the toilets with kids if this happened, not letting anyone else (other kids / staff) come in with her. I don't know the exact ins and outs of what happened here (it happened a few times while we were on shift together) but it creeped me out, as did how she was talking about me to kids e.g. saying "silly Andy, hurting you like that" when a child I was supervising hadn't caught the gate in time after I'd held it open for them. I love working at this particular club and went back after I noticed she wasn't on the staffing list anymore, but apparantly she may be coming back soon. I don't want to quit but then again don't want to work in an environment again with such a creepy bully of a co worker. How do I raise this with the club management?

[NippyWoowoo]

Ummm there are loads of Facebook groups for nannies that would be a much more appropriate place for this. I'm in quite a few and TBH this whole post is strange even by those standards.