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Nanny- share/ childcare

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Candibo · 05/05/2022 21:57

I desperately need childcare for my baby from July. She will only be 7 months at the time, so I really wanted to get a nanny as I will be working from home and can still see her throughout the day. It's just soooo expensive. I am looking for someone to do nanny- share with or advice on other options???

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Heathyou · 08/05/2022 18:33

I would post in local fb groups to search!

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Candibo · 09/05/2022 06:18

Yes, I have, but no response. Thank you

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Soontobe60 · 09/05/2022 06:26

I look after my grandchildren 1 day a week in their own home. Their parents WFH. It was fine when they were very little, but once they could walk it became harder in that every time they see their mum or dad they want to go to them. The eldest is always trying to sneak off to see daddy. I keep telling them to go back into the office 😂😂😂

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LoveSpringDaffs · 09/05/2022 06:32

Parents WFH makes things very difficult for nannies. The children want to go to their parents & the parents who wander in & out unsettle the children.

nanny share is hardwork too. Even with parents who were friends previously. There is SO much that need to be agreed on.

in your situation I'd find a local childminder.

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Mawmy · 10/05/2022 23:19

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olympicsrock · 10/05/2022 23:22

We did a nanny share, it had it’s advantages. The main two disadvantages were
a) noisy with WFH
b) be careful not to take on a nanny share with someone who already employs that nanny. As the second employer all of the pay you pay her is taxed as the first 10K is not taxed … ie don’t be the second employer…

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olympicsrock · 10/05/2022 23:24

I may not have expressed this well but essentially the problem and message are correct

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Heathyou · 12/05/2022 13:53

olympicsrock · 10/05/2022 23:22

We did a nanny share, it had it’s advantages. The main two disadvantages were
a) noisy with WFH
b) be careful not to take on a nanny share with someone who already employs that nanny. As the second employer all of the pay you pay her is taxed as the first 10K is not taxed … ie don’t be the second employer…

You should always always agree a gross rate with a nanny. It also annoys me when nannies discuss in NET. So no, this wouldn't happen at all if a gross rate was agreed.

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PinkPlantCase · 12/05/2022 13:57

Don’t discount nursery’s, have a look at some locally.

My DS started nursery at 6/7months and it worked really well, I’ve been very happy with the communication from them and how caring the staff are.

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Shaynap84 · 13/05/2022 11:24

I’m also looking for a nanny share with no luck on Facebook. I go back in august. Ideally looking for someone to swap locations with. I also work from home. I’m in Guildford. Let me know if you’re near xx

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Shaynap84 · 13/05/2022 11:26

How did you find the Family to do the nanny share

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Shaynap84 · 13/05/2022 11:27

olympicsrock · 10/05/2022 23:22

We did a nanny share, it had it’s advantages. The main two disadvantages were
a) noisy with WFH
b) be careful not to take on a nanny share with someone who already employs that nanny. As the second employer all of the pay you pay her is taxed as the first 10K is not taxed … ie don’t be the second employer…

How did you find? Also is there always a second family or can you both agree a way to not have this inequity?

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Heathyou · 13/05/2022 13:23

Shaynap84 · 13/05/2022 11:27

How did you find? Also is there always a second family or can you both agree a way to not have this inequity?

Read my above comment. Agree a gross rate with the nanny, neither family will be financially screwed over then.

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PineappleWilson · 13/05/2022 13:52

I had to work from home during lockdown but went back onto site as soon as I could. Online meetings with a 20 month old literally kicking and smashing at the door because she can hear you but she's not allowed to go to mummy are not nice. We have a childminder and DD loves being with her. DH is still working from home. On the odd occasions DD couldn't go to the CM, he's had her at home with him "look I've done a wee!" in the background of meetings etc. I'd seriously look at "out of the house" childcare. Small children don't understand that you're working.

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Shaynap84 · 13/05/2022 15:22

PineappleWilson · 13/05/2022 13:52

I had to work from home during lockdown but went back onto site as soon as I could. Online meetings with a 20 month old literally kicking and smashing at the door because she can hear you but she's not allowed to go to mummy are not nice. We have a childminder and DD loves being with her. DH is still working from home. On the odd occasions DD couldn't go to the CM, he's had her at home with him "look I've done a wee!" in the background of meetings etc. I'd seriously look at "out of the house" childcare. Small children don't understand that you're working.

That does sound rough.. what about if the nanny takes them out to the woods a lot?

I thought having us near might comfort her 🙈

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Ayesma · 14/05/2022 14:41

My daughter is 4months old. 4 months I lived in my home having her grand father and my sister in law at home.

now m back to work. I take him to a day care that is near to my office but she is crying there . She can’t sleep there because of noisy environment. What should I do?

should I leave her at home at my sister in law?

or should I wait for her to get settled in day care?

is there any side effects of putting child in day care in this early age ?
in day care I can visit her every two hour

but if I left her in home I can’t visit home and I will be back home after 10 hours

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Mawmy · 15/05/2022 12:25

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Candibo · 19/05/2022 09:49

Unfortunately that would be too far.

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