Help! How to avoid 'Mum Burnout' ?

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Following on from the ' Mum burnout' thread which made me feel much less alone, (thank you everyone ) has anyone got any wisdom at all about how to avoid it???

My sister and I are both SAHM's and both terrible at making sure we have even our basic needs met, but I can't see the wood for the trees with 3 young kids and any clear thinking /ideas would be so appreciated.

Here's the original thread:

To ask what your "mum burnout" looks like? http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4525786-to-ask-what-your-mum-burnout-looks-like

Make sure your partner isn't an arsehole is favourite.

Time to yourself, regularly. A partner who is not an idiot will help you achieve this.

For me personally I find exercise outdoors the best was to refresh myself.

Make sure your partner pulls their weight

Also - and I appreciate this doesn’t help you OP if you have 3 DC already - but a big one for me was limiting my family size (one DC here and very happy with that)

Don't try to be supermum. Children are more creative if they don't have every minute filled fo them.....being board means they have to start thinking so don't feel you need to come up with something.

I’ve just had a quick look at your other thread. It seems your biggest issue is your partner. Maybe both of you should read how not to hate your husband after kids books.

It’s hard parenting and even more so on your own. When my youngest was that age we were in lockdown 1 and I really struggled. My youngest is over 2 1/2 and still wakes lots, it’s exhausting.

I will back later to share what helps us and to read everyone else’s ideas.

I schedule time to recharge before my mum-batteries run flat

For eg, this week I’ve been alone with energetic 3 year old DD all day today & tomorrow (as in from the minute she wakes until she goes to bed) and obviously we have the long Easter weekend coming.

So I identified this as potential for burnout a few weeks ago and booked a slot in the family diary to have Friday morning to myself .

(Obviously appreciate I’m fortunate to have a supportive DH and DD’s grandma helps out too, I realise not everyone has that)

What has this thread got to do with Paid for Childcare?

Thanks for your replies everyone! I really like the idea of @MrsSpooner - anticipate when it's going to be a hard run and schedule in time- genius! I always struggle over the long summer holiday (3 kids at home coincides with my evening class -which keeps me sane- stopping for the summer)....😭🤪

@Duracellbunnywannabe yes, the other thread wasn't started by me, but I completely agree, the pressure put on relationships when you have children is crazy and so hard to imagine beforehand!

I guess I know I need time to myself and away from the kids but stupidly I really struggle to a) arrange it and b) not feel guilty about it, which is actually insane as I've been a parent almost 11 years and have given so much.

If I was looking at this from the outside I'd probably say I was due a year off! (Not that I'd want that. 😂)

@jannier
Really good point about trying to be supermum. I have read articles about how valuable boredom is come to think of it!