New Year, same problem!! Wonky nanny due to return from materinty leave in 2 months!!!

[ziopin]

Evening all! Spoke with wonky nanny over the Christmas period and asked her if she would be returning after maternity without baby. She intends too! Bugger!

What can I do now? Should I have a chat with her before hand and tell her that I would like her daily routine to change, ie spending more one to one time with ds, spending less money each week and doing a little cooking. Would I be allowed to do this?

Do you think this would put her off?

sorry haven't seen your previous threads on this -it doesn't sound unreasonable to voice all this given its teh ideal time to discuss her role before she starts back.

I think this is going to turn into stale mate and you may just have to ride it out for a while . I remember your post befor and I think if you outline all the stuff you want doing and stick to it ridgley she may decide after a few weeks that the jobs not for her and may give notice .

How long has she been away?

Be firn about money, and give her an exact budget. Note down for her what you want her to cook.

Is she bringing her baby with her?

Oh no. Do you think she's calling your bluff? Be very strict with her, without changing any of the terms of her original contract. MAybe you should do firmal monthly reviews so you can document anything that isn't up to snuff, and lay the groundwork to let her go.

Maybe you could start submitting her CV to nanny jobs and hope she takes another job.

I can't believe she is really going to come back to work without the baby.

I seriously reckon shes calling your bluff . I think she would start back ok but give it a few days and she will miss her baby . I mean lets be honest why have a baby and look after someone elses and not see your own .

Oh I dont want her back, so although when I asked her who want going to look after the baby, she said she hadn't sorted that out yet!

How much notice should I expect if she decides not to come back?

Dont really know what to say to current nanny, as I dont want to leave her high n dry without a job either

sorry, taht should have read,'who was goning to look after her baby!'

I reckon she hasnt got anyone and is rellying on you good nature to say ok if she leaves it untill the last minute .

Dont play into her hands play it all by the book but just be so firm and dont give an inch or a cm come to that on anything .

If she turns up to work with the baby send her home becaus eshe is not fit for work .

Zippin - been there,done that and wore the tee shirt but allowed her to bring babs with her but it didn't work out.

We were both frustrated by the arrangement - baby screeched all the time - and I mean relentlessly (she still does and she is 2 now)so we called it a day becaus neither of us felt it was fair on her LO and my kids.

We had discussed change of job description as the youngest had just started school and which we both agreed to.

But it didn't work out but we are still friends.

Could you suggest a trial run on her return - thats what I did

Also, she needs to make arrangements about what will happen if the baby is ill and can't go to whatever type of care she has arranged for it. Presumably by law she would be able to take this time off work unpaid? It would end up being very inconvenient for you.

What's happening with the contract? I remember she has asked for it so she could run off to CAB and see if she could get a bit more out of you. God, I hate her on your behalf.

Are you writing a new contract or continuing under the old one?

She is a such a horrid nanny. You cetainly have my sympathies.

Will continue under the old contract, as I'm not allowing her to bring baby back.

Surely I can review her daily routine under her old contact?

Paros, i have a baby but go out to work to look after others babies. This was my career before I had him and I like my work.

I think it's good that you are continuing on the old contract. It gives continuity and helps to document that nothing about the job has changed. Are there things in the contract which you could enforce a bit more strictly than you did before?

Possibly. Definitely! The cooking for a start. Her idea of cooking is warming up a pasty in the micro! Will need to get that sorted!

Oh, pasties in the micro?! No no no and no. Buy her an Anna Karmel cook book and tell her to cook from it.

Sign up to Abel and Cole organic veg box delivery and tell her it's her job to wash and put the veg away.

My nanny had to cook/prepare food in the morning and send with DD for her lunch because schoollunches don't satisfy my nutritional requirements.

Can't remember, how old are your kids?

Or possibly this book www.amazon.co.uk/Healthy-Eating-Kids-Recipes-Children/dp/0713682604/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1 199703511&sr=8-1

you really must sit down with her and tell her how you want her to the job after all she works for you and should be doing things the way you want them done. I work as a nanny and think nothing of cooking my charge a fresh school lunch to put in his flask as the school dinners are rubbish. Putting in a pastry in the micorwave is really not on at all. Its easy to cook fresh daily or almost daily as i tend to batch cook. Point her in the direction of some easy cook books

Weathershore, could you come and contribute to my thread on nutritious lunches to take to school.

Thanks!

Have done to be honest its all comon sense in a previous job all the kids would take to school was sandwiches also ended doing the same for the dad. Hence i decided food at school could be a lot better and try hard