some excuses needed please

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I have something I hope yot cms can help me with. I have a family that lives two doors down from me who are a little (ahem) rough. Against my better judgement I agreed to have her ds . since then the ds has been repeadedly distructive and has not jelled with the group at all. She has found it very hard to settle in and crys off and on most of day. on top of this I never get paid on time and have to ask at least three or five times . eventually payment comes and is almost always short mum says will bring round later never does. So have now started adding on for following month. I want to give notice but I dont think it will be well recieved and dont want to get into confrontation with mum, help me please think best way out is a plausable excuse, as dont want trouble on own doorstep .

What is worse?this continueing or the notice fuss? given this I'd give notice, but then Im not a cm! If this was the case with a dc in my old nursery I'd have to have addressed it though, meeting then notice.

Give notice ASAP. Be very professional and firm.

I'd be very professional about it and say unfortunatly you can no longer provide care for her child, leave it at taht unless she asks, if she asks tell her the truth, the late/ lack of payment alone would make me give notice.

Just give late/short payment as the reason (it's a perfectly valid reason) if you don't want to say that the child is disruptive.

What is the problem though?

Is it the fact that the child isn't settling very well?

Or the fact that you don't get paid on time?

Have you tried telling the parent that you want paid in advance?

If I were you I wouldn't take on any neighbours in future without thinking everything through.

late payment

unhappy child

Depending on the boy's age, you could say it doesn't work well with the rest of the children.

my problem is i dont want her to take offence and become a problem to my family she has a tendency to brawl in street with neighbours. In normal circumstances I would have no problem giving her notice for the above reasons. Yes I should have not taken her on I could kick myself but I have and now I want to get out of it.

i thin the point that her LO wont settle is best way to go?, give list of other minders and cis number, say you have tried but she doesnt seem to want to play with other children adn its causing her and you concern?..feel for you though

gonna do it tomorrow money now week late and still owes from last month

Good luck chick, are you going to refuse to take him in?

god no not that brave may start off with few hints about not settling and gradually move up to your binned next week lol

definitely got to get rid. sounds like it is stressing you out and you don't need that.

yes it is a bit i see toomany replied to my thread about mindee being with me while p on hol see a bit of a pateren here need to get tough with the ps

give them a reciept in morning for all that is owed and ask for a talk about their ds not settling afterwards, get your money first!

yes this year they are not taking piss am going to give notice mother very scary but will just be calm and pro, have had long talk with other mad mother she has started trying to get in with my friends now and just turned up at my bf house today for a coffee! had met her at my house when collecting ds and chatted about where they lived next thing on door step my bf lived did not let her in

Have you got someone who can be around when you give notice?

I made DH tidy the room while I did it on Friday

Lots of luck - it is a horrid situation

did you give immediate or month notice cos akward then

I gave a month - then offered the money back if they wanted to finish early

As they haven't paid you are within your rights to say no money no care - but if she turns up with the money you need to give the 4 weeks notice - or you will be in the wrong

bloody typical mindee been lovely today and mum paid first thing

OFGS!

i know i know

so whatcha going to do?..ride it out?, see if they have turned into model parents/children???

Maybe it is their new years resolution?

errrm find out where you live? lol well i am wanting to be assertive but tend to moan alot and then be aggresive when some thig is last straw get anoyed with myself with this mother did comment that was gonna pay me anyway today (cos had billed her a reminder)

Maybe she read this thread?