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Night away for the first time in 5 years

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springblossom22 · 03/02/2022 17:03

DH and I haven't had a night away from both of our DC in 5 years - last time was for our anniversary the Xmas 2016 before DS1 arrived.

Health issues, two kids, covid and basically me over worrying about it has made we've left it far too long and we both need it for our relationship.

DS1 is 5, DS2 11 months. Both sleep through the night but are up at 5:30/6. Both typical for their age, well behaved but have their moments. Since both of their births they've been taken to sleep in multiple houses/hotels are so so good at just settling into it, we've always had a good bedtime routine so they know as soon as it's bathtime, it's bedtime no matter where they are. Both are also used to having someone else put them to bed when we've had visitors or stayed away.

My sister and DBIL have offered to have them over night whilst we celebrate my birthday but I'm so anxious. What if something goes wrong? what if they play up? It's a lot to ask of someone and a lot knowing they'll be up at the crack of dawn. Sister and DBIL aren't phased by the early start as they'll have the rest of the day (we'll pick them up at midday) to recover 😂

Am I being silly or would you not go? 5 years just seems a ridiculously long time not to have spent a night together away from DC - I just love them to pieces xxx

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Kopenbergglass · 03/02/2022 17:05

You're being ridiculous OP. I can understand you being anxious, but they will be fine.

ZoeTheThornyDevil · 03/02/2022 17:07

You're being silly. Very silly.

The DC will be absolutely fine, and your relationship needs attention too. You're leaving perfectly capable adults in charge.

springblossom22 · 03/02/2022 18:32

Thank you both - I know I'm being utterly stupid and I've worked it up in my head to be something bigger than it will be.

DH and I made a promise to ourselves that this year we'd make more time for each other outside of work/family and we want to start getting away a bit more so this is the first step x

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ShadowPuppets · 03/02/2022 18:39

You’re mad, I love my DC to bits as well but one early start is fine! And it’s so important to have a part of you that isn’t ‘mum’. Of course you’ll miss them but they’ll be absolutely fine.

Just be careful, our first night away from DD was how we wound up with DS slightly sooner than planned Grin

NellWilsonsWhiteHair · 03/02/2022 18:47

They will be fine, and I don't think it's too much to ask of someone who has said they're happy to do it! But it's also fine if you don't want to. I wasn't ready to leave either of mine overnight at 11 months, but would have gleefully handed them over by about 18 months which isn't that much longer really. Your relationship does matter too of course! Enjoy your break Smile

springblossom22 · 03/02/2022 18:55

Thank you both!

We're so lucky that my sister and DBIL are happy to have them, they don't have children yet so are keen to get some practice in and obviously know they can hand them back to use at the end 😂 I've always been a worrier but I've worked it up to be worse in my head than it will be I'm sure!

Definitely agree I need some time to be me as I'm a SAHM so everything revolves around kids and DH at the moment!xx

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