Nursery - is it weird to try and find out who a childs parents are?

[Yebbie]

Sounds weird and I've been told nervous to ask in nursery in case it is weird. DS is absolutely obsessed with a little girl in his room in nursery. He comes home talking about how he played this and that with her, that she did this, he asks if she can come to his house and play, when we go to soft play he asks if she can come, in all the photos at nursery they seem joined at the hip! I know he's quite young to have friends as he's a few months of turning 3 yet, so I don't know if it's weird but I really want to find out who her mum is and see if I can arrange some play dates for him. He just seems so taken with her and calls her is friends and it's so precious.

Is it weird? I know school mums do it, but nursery, like a private nursery not a school nursery.

You could ask his keyperson to pass your name/number and a note on to his friend's parents. Not sure the nursery will be willing to give you another parent's details.

Yep we had the same with our DS and a little boy he talked about a lot.

I just gave a note to one of the nursery workers with my name and number on asking if they fancied a play date and they popped it in the little boys back and the mum got in touch through that.

It's fine, just write a note inviting them to play with your number and ask the staff to pass it on to X's parent at pick-up.

@Peabody25

Yep we had the same with our DS and a little boy he talked about a lot.

I just gave a note to one of the nursery workers with my name and number on asking if they fancied a play date and they popped it in the little boys back and the mum got in touch through that.

That's his bag not his back

Like PP day, the nursery can pass your details on, but shouldn't give you contact details for another family.

I had a couple of mums reach out to me/my kids this way. Also, in my experience, there'll soon be rounds of birthday parties where you'll get to know these families. I've got a number of good friends now who I met through nursery.

Equally, My kids both still have friends they made at nursery - they're teens now. It's really sweet that they have relationships that began at such a young age.

Not strange at all. My daughter made really good friends at nursery - they've all gone off to different schools but we still arrange play dates and invite to each other's parties. Plus the mums have a few nights out too.

We’ve had exactly the same situation happen with my dd- she is obsessed with a little boy at her nursery (he is the tallest and she is the shortest so it’s quite a funny match seeing them together!) She is always talking about him and asking when he can come round to our house to play. They apparently both spend all day together and are the best of friends. He bought her a book as a present which was put into her nursery bag so I’m thinking of writing a little thank you card and leaving our details/number to perhaps organise a play date at a soft play or somewhere? I don’t think it would be strange at all to just write a note and ask the nursery workers to put it into her bag?

Not weird at all. Some personalities just click. Our youngest boy and a little girl in his reception class were best friends from day 1.
Drop a note in her locker.

I was once out at an event in the local town. My Ds saw his friend from Nursery. I spoke to mum she said oh your Ds invites my Dc on a playdate every day .

Boys are now at separate secondary schools but all still friends.

My 14yo is best friends with the boy he met at nursery when he was 2. We invited him to a little birthday party. His mum is also now one of my favourite people ever. 🥰