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When to start nursery

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JellyOnAPlatewithicecream · 17/01/2022 19:39

My son 20 months and is currently with a childminder 2.5 days a week. The rest of the time he is with myself or his dad. Really happy with the childminder, he has a good bond with her and she is very caring / attentive. She is only a small setting with 2 or 3 children but they go to lots of playgroups, and I take him to classes 3 times a week as well as playdates etc so I'm not worried about the social side of things for now. She also does activities with him like art, messy play, going to the park, baking etc and I try to as well. I wanted him to be a more homely environment while he's small and form a close bond with someone, so I'm happy with where he is for now.

The plan has always been that he'll start going to a local nursery or preschool sometime between 2/3 years old, but still have wrap around care from his childminder, so he'll either go for mornings at the preschool or 9am-3pm and she'll pick him up / drop him off.

But I've found out that the 3 local school nurseries / preschool will only take him from the term after he turns 3, as his birthday is beginning of summer term this means he will be 3 years and 4 months before starting nursery.

I'm wondering if that's a bit late?

There are some a little bit further away that take them from 2, so he could start doing mornings there (probably from around 2.5) and CM has said she can collect him if it's a half day, then when he's 3 and 4 months change to the local preschool (so he can do 9-3.30 potentially) but I'm not whether it's worth it, will he benefit a lot from going at 2.5 or do you think he'll be absolutely fine starting at 3 year 4 months. Don't want to hold him back in his development! But equally happy to hold off on nursery /not in a rush as I think he has a good set up at the mo and would be less disruption to keep it as it is for now.

What do people think? Are there any childminders out there who have thoughts on this?

Thanks :-)

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Looneytune253 · 17/01/2022 19:47

Genuinely I would wait. 3y4m is completely a usual time to start nursery. (I'm a cm). Esp if little one is settled where they are and it seems like they're getting everything they need

morechocolateneededtoday · 17/01/2022 19:55

I was in a similar boat in that DC was at CM for similar amount of time and with us remainder of the time (only difference is not summer born). We waited until 3y3m before commencing nursery as they were settled and thriving at CM. I did feel that in the final 3 months, they were ready for additional stimulation from nursery but the financial side meant we waited until we could get the free hours.

I dont regret it one bit - DC was so excited to start, settled instantly and was ecstatic about the move. They have enough time in nursery before starting school so it will not be such a big adjustment

NuffSaidSam · 17/01/2022 21:41

Leave him where he is.

No child needs to go to nursery before 3.

JellyOnAPlatewithicecream · 17/01/2022 21:47

Thank you, you've made me feel better about it! Good to know 3y4m is a fairly normal age to start. Been really happy with the childminder so far, just started to worry that he might be missing out by not starting nursery before then. But thinking about it that's still quite young really isn't it, and he is getting lots of good experiences with the CM and us so should be ok!

Did you do whole days at nursery when they started or just mornings / afternoons? x

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dowhattyougotttado · 17/01/2022 22:11

We skipped private nursery and just started school nursery age 3 (they can start the school year they turn 4). Was absolutely fine and had a year of nursery half days to prepare for full day reception the next year.

Kite22 · 17/01/2022 22:15

It is very normal to do 3 terms of Nursery before starting school. Not too late at all. I mean, some children don't go to Nursery at all. Some go to a Nursery class at a Primary school . Some go to PVIs . Some go to stand alone Nursery schools maintained by the LA.
I definitely wouldn't have any worries about him starting Nursery at the beginning of his Pre-school year. Smile

surreygirl1987 · 17/01/2022 22:17

Mine started at 10 months old and 6 mo the old respectively... but this was because of work rather than because I felt they needed to start that early for development. I honestly don't think it matters that much when.

MarchingOnTogether · 17/01/2022 22:23

I'm a cm. My own children stayed home with me until they started school nursery at 3y3m and 3y6m.
Personally I think your LO will be fine with the cm until he goes to the school nursery, most of the LOs I look after have done the same thing

JellyOnAPlatewithicecream · 18/01/2022 01:40

Thank you! Most of my friends babies started nursery when they went back to work after mat leave (around 1yr), I've been happy with the decision to go with the childminder instead but just started to worry that he'll be missing out as he gets a bit older, but this has reassured me that starting at 3y 4m will be totally fine :-)

It's also the simplest solution which I'm very much a fan of at the mo! Haha.

I do think it would be good if he spent a bit more time playing outside, so might see if there are any forest school playgroups we can join nearby or just make more of a conscious effort to get out to the park / woods etc on the days I have him.

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jannier · 18/01/2022 20:24

I'm a cm. Normally the children have stayed with me not going to nursery but straight to reception. They have all gone in more independent and settled than their peers and able to do all the things expected. The last one to go to school nursery was pulled out as he wasn't doing anything new and went backwards as his peers couldn't do as much so staff automatically wrote his name etc.
All registered settings work to the same standards and that includes preparation for school

gogohm · 18/01/2022 20:25

My dd only went to preschool for a year, this was normal

Twickerhun · 18/01/2022 20:30

My two never did nursery or pre school. Their amazing childminder prepared them for school so well. I honestly don't think they needed anything else.

Lotsalotsagiggles · 22/01/2022 22:01

Even now our ittle one days

Mon am at preschool
Tues with childminder
Weds 9-4 pre school
Thurs with childminder
Fri 9-4 pre school

And will until he starts school, we shate our 30 hours with 15 at each and top up is only about £150 a month

The balance is perfect!

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