Childminder's Club: How do you point out?

[KangaMummy]

I only work part time with one mindee aged 2 years atm

His mum works shifts {His granny is at DH school}and she swapped her days of working from the rota so I arranged to go out to lunch that Friday as I wasn't working

Then today she said that she had to work as her boss made a mistake and she should work that friday and not the monday as she told me.

I felt very guilty telling her I had a lunch date, {with a friend who is going back to live in Australia 1 week later}

Then I thought hold on a minute I am self-employed and if I was a nursery I would have already given that Friday to someone else.

It was just that she expected me to swap back again.

How do I stop feeling like I work for her like I did when I was a nanny?

What do you do?

His other granny could look after him BTW

I would explain that you have a business appointment with the bank/solicitor/website designer about the future of your business enterprise - emphasise your professionalism but that you have a prior engagement

Yes I guess that would have been better but she just came out with it out of the blue.

I am hopeless at lying I just don't think quickley enough on my feet I guess.

It was the assumption that it didn't matter how many changes she made I was just sitting at home with nothing better to do than wait until the next work day came along and then I feel guilty for saying no!

I am usually very flexible and it usually doesn't matter unless am doing something like hospital appointment with DS.

Perhaps that is the problem I always say yes

But we are providing a service so we should be flexible - however if their boss tried it on with them - they would object

What do you call the parents?

Are they clients? bosses? something else?

nuisances

Just parents - I get confused otherwise

I think they are technically Clients

Parents to me too but I suppose parents/carers would be more politically correct.
I always say 'yes' too when I should say 'no'.
(dh would disagree with me there )

lol

See I have to get it out of my head that they are not bosses

My mum keeps reminding me that but it after years of nannying

KANGAMUMMY YOU ARE IN CHARGE

Just say it hypnotically 4 or 5 times before you go to bed every night.

They are just lucky that I only have one mindee atm beacause I can and am flexible but if I was full up then I wouldn't be able to be

I can't be that flexible with all my crowd

There must be a better name for them than MINDEES

Thanks KMc I am glad that you both agree I feel better now

I always seem to feel guilty.

Last week DS was rushed to A&E because he had a seizure and fainted.

well I was supposed to work the next day but DH said that I should just concentrate on DS, and so phoned them up to explain, I felt so guilty.

I gave them from 4pm on the Tuesday as notice. {the granny looked after mindee}

I do not charge for days off btw.

BUT I followed DS around all day not letting him climb the stairs alone as he was still a bit wobbly in the morning.

He wouldn't have got any peace with 2 year old mindee here anyway