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mum of mindee (one day per week) just text to say she will be bringing her LO tomorrow at x a time..i text her back saying i have LO down for thurs not wed and have plans(dd's show) for tomorrow, cant get extra tickets(dp cant even go!)plus got stuff planned for her Lo thurs..texts me back, she gave me wednesday(i have it here on my pad..Thurs?!)
just didnt give me the hours?

now have text back saying will be at show x a time if you would like to split your LO days this week(wed afty/thurs morning?) i will do that as obv mix up somewhere, but cant do more as i was working off what i have written here wether that now be right or wrong?

so am i in the wrong here?...i have to text this parent EVERY week to ask what her Lo hours are the following week, she is supposed to text me(without me prompting her every sat when she knows for sure), but even after i text on sat gone, i am only now hearing from her TONIGHT 3 nights later, saying can i have him tomorrow then all sorts of awkward / iffy texts saying 'someones' got it wrong and she has wed written in her diary??!!!

am so peeved off right now with people mesing me around, she cant give me set hours as she on shifts which i have come to accept, but this is the third time THIS has happend, expecting me to work diff day and once before same thing 'saying' they had picked diff day that what i had wrote down!.arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Does she work?

It sounds awfully as if she is using you tbh.

I use a c/minder 3 days a week whilst I attend university & I would never in a million years take advantage of her!!

Does she have to go to work tomorrow? Or can she go in any day?

i 'think' she works 2-3 days per week and family help out the other days, i have her LO one day anything from 6.30am-8.30 pm, standard contract is 12 hours per day, but she usually only uses about 9 each week, but as she said she would sometimes need 2 days i had to set it in the middle, she is more than happy with this!
She does work shifts which i understood, but i also say over and over again that i NEED 2 weeks notice of all hours, i think this is very reasonable notice to give and have been moret han lenient when she doesnt give me the hours until the weekend before!

her family would be dropping LO off tomorrow(if i was having him tomorrow) as her dh is working away, so i know shell be finding it hard, but i cant just change plans(nad would NOT miss dd's show!), dont know what she has in her diary or if she told me different or if i wrote different, but she was sat next to me when i was writing it down, so id think shed have said hang on thats wrong?

am feeling reeally bad, but also really annoyed that im just expected to drop everything to accomodate

oh and she does normally change her shifts to suit her(ie will do a nightshift instead of planned day for more money..obviously really but cant expect me to change with no notice, i get paid no more and quite often lose out as she SAYS she wants a 15 hour day, i plan it, write out invoice and expect x amount extra only to be told the night before, she has changed shift and now only needs LO here x hours meaning im down and then have to replan and re write invoices!

when i book in mindee 3's hours i always do one month at a time and me & mum work it out and i write it on the calender in front of her - could you do similar or get her to write down days and times - then you can keep this as evidence in case of this type of problem

Good idea maximummy, to get her to write down the hours then she would be responsible for any mixups.
I do sympathise, of course with her shift work you need to be flexible, but this family seems to be really taking advantage of your good nature

Oh i am flexible i am always ALWAYS changing her hours at last minute, i would say 3 weeks in 4 i change her hours the night before!!!, no matter how much i stress the importance of giving me hours they dont seem to appreciate how important it is to me and for me to plan for their LO!...am feeling some notice coming on...???

Have you told her you can't take minde tomorrow?

HI all, yeah i told her as I had thurs down wether right or wrong now, thats all i could work from so i couldnt have her LO, i did offer to have LO half day today half day tomorrow, but she declind and said she would bring him thursday!?? am confused as to wether she DID have wed down or wether someone who would norm be helping out fabcied changing their day and i get the wool pulled over my eyes??!!

I had this over the last year - one mum had been stood next to me as I wrote it in the diary, another requested day by email and sent hubby with child on a different day.

So I've typed out some booking forms for parents to fill in & sign every time they want to book extra or change hours. Also my contracts state charges will be made for both the originally booked day and the newly booked day, so I haven't wasted my time reserving a place thats not needed.

I've also got into the habit of saying see you on [day] EVERY time mindee is collected.

yeah i say that too although makes no difference for me, i also say please remember to text me your hours!, that doestn work either!

was pondering wether she would give me notice last night(although not justified, but seemed it was heading that way) and i got round to thinking about the space that current mindee is after, she comes on day but is now after 2, the day this other LO usually comes?.., this other parent pays early/on time, never changes hours, always fits around time i need off and is very helpful and hours always the same so no problems there...hmmm...woud it be dodgy to lose one child to giv the other an extra day?

go for it chick anything for an easy life