Should I be a little bit p****d off with my CM for this?

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A few months ago my CM took on two brothers one of 11 months and the other is the same age as ds (2.11).
Anyway the older one it turned out had some 'behavioural issues' and this resulted in ds changing in behaviour slightly and also being hit on several occaisions.
CM said she was giving notice and the mother asked to just cut it down to one day whilst she found alternative childcare.

Yesterday CM tells me she has decided to keep the boy as his behaviour has been better and she doesnt feel like she gave him enough time to settle.

Is this usual practice? Should I be a bit miffed that she didnt discuss it with me or doesnt she have to?

My feeling is, it is her call and if you have a problem you can move. Just speaking as a mother, not a CM.

I agree. As an independant business, I think it's her choice sho she accepts and who she doesn't. As a client it's your right to choose whether you stay or you go.

I'd be a bit annoyed I suppose if I were you. And I'd consider going probably. But, I wouldn't think I had any rights to tell her how to run her business. I guess that's one of the disadvantages of being a client rather than an employer.

I agree I have no right to tell her who she can mind. But am miffed that she made a point of telling me she was not prepared for my ds to put up with that sort of behaviour, then 6 weeks later its fine

I dont think she has to discuss with you who she has or doesn't have
obviously you can discuss with her if your not happy about whats happened/happeingin to your dc but in the end if your not happy you'll have to move him

Yeah, that would irritate me too. I suppose you could tell her you are a bit disappointed with the decision and leave it at that.

From your op it sounds as though this child's behaviour has improved so she isn't now saying she is prepared to put up with the bad behaviour. She is saying that it has improved and she is giving him more time to settle.

TOTALLY agree with dustystar. I'm a CM and agree with everyone about it being her choice but as a mother, I'd be annoyed if behaviour still bad but if not, then I think it's only fair the child stays as it would be unsettling to move them when they've got to know her. All my contracts have a 4/8 week notice period so if I gave notice and then they were totally model child during that time, I'd probably reconsider as best for the child. I WOULD be annoyed if the child wasn't better though.

HTH

HI i dont think you should/can blame your cm for everythig, she was honest with you explaining about this other childs behaviour, told you when he was affected(hit) by it and said she was taking action and what that was...then a few weeks/months on, this other boy's behaviour has improved and she has made a probably very well thought out descision to let him stay on, obv meaning his behaviour has greatly improved, meaning no more violence for your own ds.

If the hitting has stopped, i dont see the problem?
shes been very open and honest with you, obv having all childrens best interests at heart and now doesnt see it as an issue.

Sounds like a good CM to be honest