Nanny with OC not coping

[sundayfarm2021]

My nanny is due to return to work imminently following Mat leave; prior to her leaving we agreed that she could bring OC to work 2 days x week then partner would have her the other days.

Since having baby we have met multiple times and it is clear she is struggling (no judgment we all do with newborns!) the baby won't sleep unless in a carrier, won't go in car seat unless someone sits with her and her mum (our nanny) appears quite nervous with her.

The job with us involves school pick up drop offs etc as well as day to day childcare duties. My concern is will/how she will cope bringing her daughter to work with her (who will be 6 months) and do the original job she is employed for. We don't want to lose her as she is amazing and fantastic with my child however want to be up front and honest from the start.

How many children do you have? Six months is very young, she’s probably sleep deprived as well. Is it worth a conversation asking how she will manage naps/entertaining your children/school drop offs etc as well as her own child?

I understand your concern but i think its her problem to solve and not yours. And yes-i suspect it might have to fail for her to see she cant do it or to enlist more help so she can work. And that might be a bit of a pain for you whilst she susses that out.

We are all forced into doing things differently when we return to work and sometimes it is the impetus we need to put some structure in place or make some changes. So she may switch things up quickly.

If she is usually great i think it is worth baring with her a few weeks until she figures things out. Hopefully she will still be able to meet your childs needs and you will get the service you pay for.

IME nannying with their own baby doesn't tend to work out. The nanny's priorities change - quite naturally of course - and they are no longer fully engaged with looking after your children. I've seen it happen a few times.