CM CLUB - Potty training.....

[LoveMyGirls]

What signs do you look for to make sure child is ready?

What do you do if there are no signs but parents are insisting they aren't sending nappies anymore or will only send pull up's?

Any advice?

The only signs I waited for is the child acknowledging they were wet or dirty, or starting to pull off their nappy. My 19 month is starting to do this now. I bring her to the potty and sit her down even though I know it will be another few months before she will be ready to have no nappy or even go in the potty or to grasp the whole concept. But I am just giving her the idea of what to do. My 3rd dd is 3 and was doing the same thing but it took her till about 2/1 to get the get the grasp of it and go without a nappy.

Thanks Joedar,

I'm sort of potty training my dd2 at the moment (at weekends) but I'm now waiting until christmas hols to do it properly so I can just do it one to one when she will hopefully be a bit older and a bit more ready, currently refusing to wee on the potty she'll either hold it until i put nappy back on for nap/ bed or wee on the floor, so going to have a break for a few weeks I think?

I have a fair idea of what the signs are and mindee is not displaying any of them but his mum is sending pull ups and potty training now.

I just wondered what everyone else does? Do you just say ok and then spend hours cleaning up after a child who isn't ready?

just use the pull-ups like nappies and explain to childs parents that child doesn't seem ready or willing

and ask for extra pull-ups

I did sit him on the toilet before we left the house and he didnt do anything then at toddler group he wet his pull up (must have done a big wee as was so heavy!) i've got 3 pull ups to last the rest of the day, and i'm going to change him after lunch it is meaning more work as pull up's don't hold the wee like nappies (which i have explained to mum) he isn't using the potty reliably enough imo and doesnt have the language to tell me he wants a wee (makes no attempts to let me know if he wants changing etc) I just think it's madness using pull ups as nappies, surely that is only confusing him?

I used to think that it was really up to parents whether they provided nappies or pull em ups and it wasn't my place to suggest what they should or shouldn't buy.

But I've now had children as young as 7 months arriving in pull em ups! I didn't know they made them so small. I've tried to approach it tactfully with parents - saying that I respect its their choice what to buy but my recommendation would be to save the pull em ups until child can pull em up by themselves. I pointed out they're not designed to retain as much volume as nappies - pull em ups are only meant to cope with small accidents. It would seem I'm not as tactful as I thought - parent went on defensive saying they always used them at nighttime and hadn't had any problems. They're all still bringing them. Is there a special offer or something? Pullem ups were always much dearer than normal nappies when my own were small.

I've put in my handbook that parents are to continue to supply nappies or pull em ups until we both agree they're no longer needed. I've included this list - Some signs your child may be ready:
Can recognise that they need to use the toilet/potty.
Can leave their current activity in order to use the toilet/potty.
Can understand the link between the toilet/potty and being dry.
Can understand and use vocabulary (or sign language) relating to using the toilet.
Is keen to do things ?by themselves?.
Can communicate their need to use the toilet.
Can control their bowel/bladder for a few minutes beyond that communication.
Can remove their clothing with little or no assistance.

Well I never used pull ups, just underwear, they get the message quicker if they get all there legs wet, and you too know as soon as they have gone , I find the pull ups are just the same as the nappy and create a comfort zone for them,I would just use a nappy at night or nap time just incase. Its tough to train someone elses kid too I guess, and the depends how old he is too, my nephew was 3 before he was ready.

When I trained my 3rd dd I picked a week I could realy focus on her and didn't have to go anywhere and left her walk around with no pants( it was christmas hols actually) she resisted for about 4 days and would end up wetting on the floor on about day 5 I was ready to give up and put the nappy back on when she asked to use the loo! It was if she was resisting and eventually just gave in when she knew the nappy was not an option. I was glad I had perserverd then.

Maybe you could suggest to the parents to wait till christmas time where they can do it and for the moment just get on with the pull ups?

I have spoken to mum and suggested waiting until xmas as that is when i'm aiming to try with dd2 and mum has agreed to buy nappies again, i've said to encourage him at home and then wait until she has time at home with him and then he can run round for a few days without clothes on which he can't really do here due to school runs and toddler groups. Which is why I'm waiting until xmas to do it with my dd2 so I can have some dedicated time.

Totally agree and actually, I think I'll suggest that to my 2 yr old mindees mum too (although with me trying on the odd hour we're at home and not having lunch/naps etc!

LMGs - glad mum was ok in the end Tried to MSN you but you're offline!