Night nannie for disabled new mum

[hulligwen]

Hi!
I'm epileptic. Baby two weeks old.
My seizure trigger is sleep deprivation, so my husband is stuck doing all the night feeds so I'm not a seizure risk around the baby.
He's going back to work soon. I feel scared to be overtired around the baby. I have grand mal seizures with no warning. No family locally.
Does anyone have any experience of this?
Has anyone accessed any social care/night nannie/support for these kind of issues?
How much would a night nannie cost? Could I employ them for only half the night? Say midnight to 7am? Thanks!

@hulligwen yes what drspouse said. So you get 3 hours solid sleep, he brings baby to bed with him (hasn't got to be midnight if you can sleep in a different room) and then he does the wake ups. If baby has a feed at 11 then there's theoretically one feed at 2. You then get baby for the 5 am feed and keep til you both wake up. You've got 7 hours solid. DH gets 7 hours with a wake up.

Like others are suggesting I think many couples split the night so that each of you are getting a decent chunk of uninterrupted sleep.

I suspect GPs / social workers will be unwilling to fund a night nanny though. I think they’d suggest shared parental leave so that your partner cares for the baby whilst you return to work.

I have epilepsy and had social services involved as I had a abusive ex who I called the police on. I was actually scared as ex always threatened I wouldn’t be able to keep my child as I have epilepsy so different to your situation.

They were helpful but definitely no offer of nannies or help like that. What they did do is help me get a care alarm so I press a button and get emergency response quick. Helped fit a key safe so the emgancy respond can’t enter my home without scaring my child. They also helped me get a fall alarm so if I fall and have a seizure the emergency alarm would be activated.

I also slept whilst my child slept to make sure I had the maximum sleep. I know how hard it can be it’s very scary . I’m sure you know how to keep your child safe like changing on the floor etc. I hope it all goes well for you and you get the support you need but I don’t see social services doing Much at all. Although I didn’t want them to so I may be wrong.

I’m a maternity night nanny. Charges vary £18/22ph depending where job is

If I have to travel an hour plus then it’s slightly higher rate to bring in travelling time

I usually do 10hr nights

I wouldn’t agree to half a night as not worth my while not do I want to be driving at 11pm

Totally get the sleep deprivation for yourself. Esp with a medical condition

What area are you in ?

Don’t know if sd would pay tbh

@Creepygnochi

UCO

52, technically.

IVF, of course. The biological material was leftovers from genetic testing in my 30s. I wouldn't recommend having a baby so late, but we needed cord blood, had the gametes on ice, could afford to do it, so thought fuck it.

I missed this reply

Wow. So glad ivf worked

Age is a number

I was almost 44