CM CLUB - Potty Training

[looneytune]

Hi lovely people, I need some advice please.

Have mindee aged 2.3 and her mum is trying potty training. So far at home it's been a very casual thing and they had a few 'pee pees in potty' so I got my potty out.

On Monday she would sit on it but nothing happened on it and then yesterday she was shouting NO at the potty and didn't want anything to do with it. Twice she came running in saying 'need the potty' so I pulled her trousers down to go on and she screamed and hit me. First time she'd done a poo and 2nd time she'd done a wee so I THINK she was getting a little confused or maybe upset with herself for not making it on time? Anyway, I then took her nappy off as both times needed it, the 2nd time she wriggled and screamed at me and kicked me in the tummy (I don't want her doing this, especially as I am pregnant and been advised to be careful due to MC risks).

Today she saw the potty and screamed 'I DON'T WANT IT.....I DON'T WANT IT, GET IT AWAY, GET IT AWAY'. Her mum said at home she has no nappy on and they leave her in the hall after breakfast as doesn't matter if she wees on the floor there. Well I don't have a hall and was wondering if maybe mindee doesn't like potty here as not got the privacy???? Anyway, took her trousers and nappy off and she cried her eyes out wanting it all back on. I eventually managed to calm her down and got baby doll and potty out and put opposite her potty and put baby doll on hers then walked away to see what she'd do. Well after a while she sat on hers and played with doll and chatted to her etc. but then got off. Left her playing with no bottoms on and about half hour/hour later she called (about 5 mins after sitting on her potty again) saying she'd been (she'd wee'd on playroom floor). I disinfected the floor, cleaned mindee up but she was crying for her nappy so I dressed her again as it's getting near lunchtime anyway.

Any advice as I'm new to training so young. My ds (being a lazy boy) had just turned 3 when he went on the potty so he had better communication skills by then. Other mindee was 2.7ish and was speaking a lot more clearly etc. and her mum did it over a weekend and she was pretty much sorted straight away.

I only have her Mon-Wed and her mum said she's going to put her in big girl pants from tomorrow and go for it properly which is great (as I have groups, school runs etc). Hopefully she will have cracked it by Monday? If she has.....should I be worried about the amount of time we're out and about in the car/pram? Should she start with pull ups or go straight to pants?

I'm nervous!

Any advice would be great as this is a new one for me

do you have a travel potty you could take for when you out and about and leave a little more time for stops! sounds like you doing the right thing, not much experience on dd who was a dream! sure i'll get more when i start miding properley!

HI looney, I'm not an expert by a long way but it seems to me that your mindee is telling you she's not ready. Could you try hinting this to parents? It really is easier on all concerned if you wait untill cheldren are ready. We had a similar issue with a mindee who clearly wasn't ready, we stopped and a couple of months later mindee did it all by herself.

hi i am cm have potty trained loads ,i dont think age matters if they are ready,might be useful just to put nappy on in car just in case.my dc were just turned two they took two weeks to do night and day.i have done mindee too she was 2.2 yrs i used raisins as a reward or stickers.if u know when she normally poos you could try putting her on potty either reading to her or putting cbeebies on.my mindee always hid behind shed when she needed a poo.i think u just have to persevere good luck

Doesn't sound like she's ready tbh. I think you'll need to be guided my the mum atm. See how they get on until Monday. Thing is, you'll have to follow whatever route they take. No good you going back to pullups if she's had pants on at home. When you do go out, make sure you have plenty of change of clothes anyway! Because all of mine are parttime, I haven't done any of them!

Sounds as if she isnt actually ready yet, see how mum gets on in the next few days, must admit if I can I do potty training in the holidays when we can stay in for a few days, pull ups for the car to start with.

I have the other way 20 month is totally dry and clean daytime naps as well as awake time asks for the potty everytime, AS LONG AS SHE HAS A PULL UP ON, put her in pants and trousers and she wets them!!

The only conclusion I can come to is they give her the confidence to get to the potty on time, (she hates wetting herself and gets very upset if she does)

As she is so young doing it, have just left her in them , she only uses one a day and mum is happy for her to do it in her own time. It is very much BLPT (baby led potty training) with this little girl, took herself off to the potty on her own about a month ago!

Thanks everyone. I did think about the travel potty - it certainly wouldn't work on a day like today but she may have progressed by Monday so will look into getting one over the weekend. I must admit the shouting and hitting and crying her eyes out (proper distressed) made me think she's not ready. Hopefully she'll be ready by Monday!! She IS going through a phase about letting you know when she's not happy about something and this behaviour is the sort of thing she does if say you take her jumper off because she's boiling hot but she wants it on. Anyway, I think it's been hard because we've been in out in out for the last 2 days and because they haven't actually done proper training at home. I'll get mum to update me during the next few days and over the weekend so I get some idea of how it's going

I'll tell mum that unless they pack LOTS of clothes, I will put her in pull ups (just to make sure I get enough clothes as I have a nightmare with this although I keep saying!). So I can just change her but what about the car seat? Do you think those bed mats would be worth a try? Just thinking if I clean it each time, it won't dry in time so this might help? (also on Thurs/Fri a baby goes in it so it needs to be ready for her too).

I may suggest keeping the girls off group next week to see how she gets on?? (as only her and her sister anyway). Otherwise it's hard to allow too much extra time for stops because we're from place to place so much, I don't actually get that much time at group at it is.

Anyway, thanks for all your advice. Hopefully the kicking my tummy was a one off!! (she's never done anything like that before and boy did it hurt!!)

What about those Pampers mats? You could stick one of those under her bum in the car seat.

Mo - that's what the bed mats are

Actually, LMGs gave me this link they look fab!

hug for your tummy looney [hug]

i used a plastic bag and an old terry nappy in the car seat. placky bag first then fold up terry on top. bed mats might work but expensive! i have seen somewhere something called a piddle pad whcih is shaped and washable. it fits round the crothc starp i think so better protection. try e-bay!

Cheers EM - by the way, that link below is the same thing but thanks, I hadn't heard of them til today