not sure if this is the right place to ask this.....but how do I ask my childminder...

[MuffinTopMamma]

why my 6 month old DS' dummy was on her playroom floor when she was briefed that his dummy was for sleep time only? (Paranoid mother suddenly gets pangs of concern over care DS receives!)

maybe she dropped it after he woke up from his nap?

Hmm. I hope so, do you think I should ask her why it was there? Or just leave it?

I'd leave it tbh, it's not like he had it in his mouth, I do think you are overreacting slightly, sorry
on the other hand, it does make me wonder whether you have complete confidence in your childminder, and if you don't then that is something you need to think about

thanks for shaking me out of this. I have total confidence in my childminder, she's great. I think that's why I was so surprised to see the dummy in that context. I think I shall leave it - i've only just returned to work and so I'm probably over-reacting due to my own personal anxieties.

i would maybe collect him slightly earlier one day to either put your mind at ease or so you can see if she is doin things you don't want. you can just say you finished work early.

Dummy's in my experience have a habit of growing legs and walking! They just seem to move around - they get lost - and whenever you do need one, you can never find it!

For example, 3 year old I care for will go to his baby sisters bedroom to get her dummy for her, if she is making too much noise during the day.

I'd don't worry about it too much on this occasion. But keep an eye out for it in future.

My ds at 3 months would throw his dummy across the room.

Maybe she lets him keep it for 5 minutes after his nap...my son used to wake up really grumpy after his nap and although I only ever used to let him have a dummy in bed I did on grumpy ocassions let him have it for a while afterwards to ease the transition from sleep to play. As soon as he was engrossed I would steal the dummy off him.
Surely its better that your cm is keeping your ds happy even if that entails letting him have his dummy a little more than you would!
From my experience of being a childminder, a nanny and using nannies I think you need to look at your childcare as a 'bigger' picture rather than trying to analyse each tiny individual aspect. Every individual takes on aspects of childcare in a slightly different way, while as a childcarer you always do your very best to accomodate parents ideas and views for bringing up their children it is 100% inevitable that you won't always do it in quite the same way that a parent would. Not intentionally just because its the way you do things.
If you try to analyse all the tiny bits of childcare you will most likely end up very unhappy with the arrangement. You need to ensure that your ds is happy, clean, stimulated, well fed, loved, warm, cuddled etc If that is happening then try to 'chill' out about minor things and save any battles for major issues:-)
If you see it on the playroom floor repeatedly then yes I agree you need to say something but personally this time I would let it go.

Jenna