Children not napping at CM

[pipsi100]

I have just returned to work and my 2 DS now go to a CM 2 days a week. She is a lovely lady but I am concerned about the napping arrangements - she doesn't put my DS2 down for a nap unless he falls asleep on her (he's 9 months) and she gives my DS1 a blanket on the sofa and a DVD after lunch to 'chill' - I have asked several times for them to have a proper sleep but she just brushes it off and says they are happy. For her maybe but I get home from work and have to rush tea and get them in bed by 6.45 as by then they are bushed. Part of me thinks don't sweat it it is only 2 days a week, but part of me thinks she should respect what I ask her? What do others think ?

Oh dear, I'm a CM and have the opposite problem (well, HAD) where the mum was constantly rocking to sleep etc and baby wouldn't sleep here without all that and I just don't have the time to do the same.

She's well out of order and I totally agree with you and this must be sorted as others things will niggle you too if you don't nip it in the bud. Now you have to realise she may not be able to put them down at time you would however she should certainly NOT be giving a blanket and DVD if you don't want her to and not be letting other one fall asleep on her.

Deffo have a word!!!

Yes speak to her about it now, as it will just niggle away at you otherwise, she should be doing what you want or giving you a very good reason why she cant!!!!! I prefer children asleep in travel cots personally I think its better for them and the CM gets break while they rest to tidy/eat lunch/set up activities. Good luck with talking to her about it, its always tough.

I used to have the problem like looney, with mindee 1 his mother had spent every waking hour for 6 months rocking baby, holding him and cuddling him, the only way he would sleep was for me to do the same. Then along came his brother, who would not go to sleep in a travel cot,in my house. Another mindee I ahd, a girl similar age was the same, her mother was always moaning at me that the child was tired (I knew she was, she woke at 2am every morning and her mum took her downstairs until she fell asleep again at 4/5 o clock then the child woke at 6.30) The only way either of them would sleep was if I walked the route by teh railway, which was a bout 2 miles round trip. In the end I just said tot eh aprents if they fall asleep on teh sofa at storytime I wll leave them there.
However i can understand why this is niggling you, and you need to get it sorted. Has she actually tried to get them to sleep in a cot, or does she not bother? The children i ahd would amke theirselves sick if I put them in a cot.
She should abide by what you want for your child, but as Looney also said, if she does put them down then it may not be at the time you want.

Thanks, I will try and tackle her again. Not too bothered about the time thing as our days vary & I appreciate she has school runs etc to do. I have been giving her the benefit of doubt as I felt she was trying to make life easy for her/them with less tears but in the long run it is not a workable solution for her in the day or me in the evening. I agree I relish if their pm naps co-inside as it's time for me!