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lifeisntperfect · 03/10/2020 08:13

Hi there,

I am looking for a bit of advice really. I am bout to split with my boyfriend. We live together and have 2 kids, both under the age of 5.

We both work full time and we are on exactly the same salary per year (coincidence). I own the house we live in and he pays me "rent" each month. He moved in when we first got together.

We have always done everything 50/50 when it comes to the kids. We split nursery cost down the middle and buy them clothes and food etc. I pay my share and he pays his share. No problem there. This will not be a problem going forward.

My question is, if/when we split up. He will have the kids 50% of the time and I will have them 50% of the time. They will have clothes at his house and they’ll have clothes at mine. He’ll feed them when they’re with him and I’ll do the same when they’re with me. Literally 50/50.

However the government website sets that he still needs to pay me £340 per month. Why? Does anyone know? I mean don’t get me wrong I will take the cash but deep down I don’t understand why?

I will have a mortgage to pay but so will he. Gas, electric, council tax etc... and so will he. Gosh it sounds like I’m defending him but I’m not. I just need to understand why he has to pay me and I don’t have to pay him even though we’re doing everything 50/50. I am no push over and I can make sure it’s 50/50.

I will take the money if the system says so but it seems unfair?

Can someone explain to me why he still need to pay me. There was no information on the government website.

Thanks in advance 🙏🏽

OP posts:
MeanMrMustardSeed · 03/10/2020 17:43

Given all the information you’ve given here, I don’t think this is right either. If children are shared 50:50 then usually no money is involved. Interested in further answers.

chocolatespiders · 03/10/2020 17:45

Did you put on the calculation how many nights they would stay with him?

PotteringAlong · 03/10/2020 17:45

He doesn’t need to pay you money. 50 / 50 is just that.

The only thing I would query is the clothes. Presumably you are not going to make them get changed out of dad clothes and leave them at his when they leave before they come back to you, so you need to be a bit more fluid about that I think.

SodaPerson · 03/10/2020 17:47

If you split the kids equally, you both worn full time, and you both earn similar amounts. Then you're not going to get anything.

He might/should get half the house though.

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