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My Mother helps my sister with her son but not mine

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musicmama18 · 23/08/2020 18:24

I know my older sister and her son are favoured by my own mother, which is sad and does hurt deep down but it's also the truth.

My sister is a No.1 drama queen, she is very manipulative at making her life seem very difficult and hard to manage. Also her son is a handful (3.5 years old)

My life is a bit different, live in the countryside, DH provides and does well for us, i think my Mum thinks I have it easy, my son is 2 - is big, heavy, strong willed, strong and a real fire cracker.

She often remarks 'you funny little thing aren't you?' or 'he's too heavy I can't pick him up'

He adores his nanna but she is distant and pulled back emotionally, I can see it - where as she's very close with my sister boy (who is no angel at all)

I thought at first maybe he was easier to manage as he is older, perhaps.

When my sisters boy was born she uploaded loads of photos of him onto instagram - not one of my son. Although she recently claimed she never uses it to upload anything anymore only to snoop..?

It's a hard realisation. I have moved to middle of nowhere and have no village, no friends and am very exhausted.

Yet my mother is reluctant to help - so i try stay clear of asking.

:(

She often remarks how she was a single parent with no money when she bought us up and i wonder if there's a hint of jealousy there..?

My son due to start 2 sessions a week at nursery soon, i need it, then i return to work and hopefully won't need her help.

The thing is when she is here at our house, I make sure to look after her - get her certain foods i know she likes in etc.,

Quite sad really. I was often mocked as a child/baby and i feel she is repeating this with my son.

Any advice?

thanks x

OP posts:
FelicityPike · 23/08/2020 18:29

Yeah...cut her off! She’s making you feel like shit and treating your son awfully.
Do either of you need that in your lives? No.

jannier · 24/08/2020 18:16

Id stop making the effort stop inviting her round and get on you may find it then bothers her. Sometimes we take for granted what is always there and compliant....do you really need the stress?

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