Nanny request - is this fair?

[JADS]

We have an after school nanny for one of our DS 2 days per week. He is 9, has LD and attends a special school. We are on our 2nd nanny with him and it is tricky to find someone for 8 hours a week.

Our nanny's daughter is starting school soon and she has asked that she has her at our home for 1-2 hours per day. Her child is lovely and with the Covid issues we have been flexible about her bringing her along. However there is part of me that thinks that she is no longer a sole charge nanny and I will be subsidising her childcare by agreeing to this.

Can we ask that she accepts a wage reduction for the hours her daughter is with us? Or do I just have to suck it up as it is so difficult to find after school care for DS? (We have a 2nd DS who goes to a childminder because we felt that DS1 needed more 1:1 attention after school)

Is she good? Do you want to keep her? Will she continue to do a good job regardless? Is there any real impact on your ds care?

I tend to be flexible to my nanny because she does her best for us always and it's not a well paid job so any extra value I can give to her while she helps our family is a bonus for her I feel.

It really depends on how good your nanny is and whether you want to keep her.

I’d say yes but set ground rules - ie your child’s needs and activities take preference, if you want your DC to do an activity then nanny pays for own child to do so (and no quibbling about her child not wanting to), she does not do solo activities with her child during the time she is paid for, you expect her to use family members for child sickness if possible.