toilet troubles

[thomaspants]

New mindee started 3 weeks ago and from day 1 with me has pooed in his pants. Every day without fail. The majority of his wees are on the toilet, save for the occasional accident and he tells me when he needs to go for a wee. Mum and Dad say he goes off by himself to toilet at home and never has accident, wee or poo. He has been dry for several months.

I have been watching him for a sign that he needs to go but there is none. I am taking him to toilet regularly and have tried a sticker chart. He appears to have no fear of toilet/bathroom and happily takes himself off for a wee. He can manage step and clothes well. I have also tried leaving tousers/pants off but he just poos when he has to have them back on i.e for school run.

Mum and dad are unconcerned and happy for me to just ignore and change with no fuss and say he will settle down but I thought there might be something I am missing? Does anyone have any advice or experience of this?

My ds pooed his pants for a year after he was dry day and night. Not every day because sometimes he saved it up, but he never pooed on the loo or potty in that time and it drove me to distraction. I think these parents are lying and he doesn't poo in the right place at home either. I suggest you put a nappy on him for the school run, and keep pants off him in the house. How old is he btw? My ds was 3 when dry, but not clean as well till over 4.

Maybe it's your bathroom. Sorry, but you know what toddlers are like. It could be that his step at home has Thomas on it and since yours doesn't he won't use it. Maybe ask them what kind of toilet seat/ step they have.

Or, maybe your house is more fun and he can't be arsed to go for a poo when he could be playing with your fab toys.

elasticwoman - thanks for the advice. He is 2 yrs 10months. I think I will put pull up on for school run, I tried the no pants today in house and he pooed on carpet in lounge but will perservere.

eleusis - lol, I hope he likes playing here. I agree things like special step/seat/potty can be important to toddlers and mum said she could bring his potty here if I wanted. He happily uses step/seat/bathroom here for wee's and is excellent at telling me he needs to go.

thanks all!

Im having the same problem with my little boy who is just 3...hes due to start preschool next week!!!! He is 100% wee dry but no 2s are a different matter. He just doesn't notice them coming...and 90% of the time they end up in his pants...even with no pants on...it just pops out on the floor when he is least expecting it!!! In desperation having tried stickers and encouragement and reminding him every 5mins etc...I am giving him a sweet when his poo makes it onto the potty! Not something I would normally do but Im desperate as they will kick him out of preschool if he keeps pooing himself..hes due to start reception next Sept and has speech delay so REALLY needs this year at preschool!! It 'touch wood' seems to be working..as it starts to come he legs it to the potty so he can get his sweet. He has also started to go and sit on the potty to try and do a poo so that he gets a sweet...Im hoping that trying to do a poo will strengthen the muscles he needs to be able to go and stop!Not the greatest of methods of persuasion Im sure...but if it works for him!!

Hope you get it sorted

Jenna

Jenna it seems really unfair that your child should miss out on pre-school just because of the poo problem. I understand staff don't want to have to deal with it, but if the worst comes to the worst, couldn't he just wear a pull-up or nappy during pre-school?

They won't deal with number 2 accidents..which is fair enough. They will call me if he has an accident so I can go and change him..which is fine 90% of the time BUT realistically if it is a recurring problem I can't keep dropping everything and running to school...what if Im in tescos in the middle of shopping etc. Just not a long term practical option! If I can't always get there to change him they will have to ask him to leave. Hes only there for 2.5 hours so hopefully if they send him to the toilet regularly it will by default pop out on the toilet... keeping it all crossed for him!

Jenna

Sorry forgot to answer question!!

They won't take children in nappies (which personally I didn't think they could do??) even if they did and he does it in his nappy I would have to go and change him as the staff won't!

Jenna

Not taking children in nappies is unusual these days I think. There are many 3 yos not dry or clean these days and it would be unfair to deny them preschool education.