I know I'm being selfish

[Ghostbuster123]

I know I'm being selfish but when do you believe grandparents will be able to take their grandchildren again. Obviously alot of people rely on grandparents for childcare and are on minimum wage so cannot afford childcare elsewhere. I am just curious for people's opinions on this.

My mum is already having DS, we had no other option.

My mum is in her early 70s and fit and healthy. She hasn't taken my Ds since obviously. However as everything is opening up I have to go to work next week. I don't know how to approach the subject with her for fear she would get upset or say no. Then I also don't want her getting Ill . I'm in such a dilemma.

I'm working on it being no grandparents care for foreseeable future. So we have both adjusted our hours to work around school (have a keyworker place at the moment). My wage as a TA is such a crap hourly rate that it is costs us less for me to drop hours than pay for after school care. DH has been able to shift his hours to start later and finish later so no financial cost for him to do drop offs.

Tbh I think many people are using grandparents.

I think Dc made it ok in many peoples eyes.

You need to have the conversation how she feels about childcare. You might not like the answer but you have to deal with it one way or another .

If schools aren’t open over summer where will the keyworker children go?

More likely family.

Starlightstarbright1 you are right. I just don't know how to go about the subject with her. I know I can't stay on furlough forever. Bill's need paid. The thing is I would have gave her money too when she had the ds. Not much but I know my interfering sister would have something to say if she said yes. And I think I can't be bothered with the drama. I will speak to my employer first and see if I can get away with reducing my hours for even a few weeks.

Please don't put your mum under pressure or make her feel like there's no other option, even if you feel that's the case. No mother can make a considered, voluntary decision in those circumstances and the reality is, she'll be taking a risk and has the right to choose whether she wants to take it. She might prefer to see how things pan out with treatment development and a vaccine before getting back out there. A lot of people feel that way, elderly or otherwise.

I agree she might feel she has no option but to do it, if you are stuck.

Whether you should even ask her should depend on her attitude to risk and her behaviour up till now. If she's been very cautious so far, you shouldn't even broach the subject. Just assume she's not doing it. If she's been popping to garden centres and multiple visits to supermarkets, rather than the minimum possible, then yes, have a chat.

We rely on ours for childcare but are having to try and balance work and childcare between us at the moment. Have just started a petition on this. Sign and share if able. chng.it/5Fqq8c6q