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Shift work, Coronavirus and childcare

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Findmyfurlough · 31/05/2020 13:14

I'm looking for advice on childcare options for shift working.

A bit of background; I have one primary aged child. I work shifts which rotate through mornings, afternoons, nights and days off over a ten day period. I'm currently furloughed but will likely be returning to work in a few weeks.

Prior to coronavirus my son attended school and my husband and I shared childcare between us. We used breakfast and after school club to cover any childcare required on weekdays outside of school, and holiday club as required on weekdays during the holidays. My husband would care for my son for the extremes of my shifts and overnight as necessary. It sort of worked but latterly he would let us down at the last minute leaving me unable to go to work.

We are now separating. For various reasons he cannot be relied upon to share childcare either practically or financially going forward. Nor can he be relied upon to contribute to household bills. So to all intents and purposes I'm on my own.

My job is specialised and cannot be done from home. I don't think that now is a good time to request flexible working with my employer due to the lingering unspoken threat of redundancy. Getting another job in my field locally is impossible, and no one elsewhere is recruiting due to the impact of Coronavirus.

So I find myself in the position of trying to find childcare to cover full time shifts, while school is closed and not likely to return to 'normal' for some time, no flexible working options, no option to change jobs and no family support nearby. My salary is good but not enough to cover all the household outgoings and a full time nanny.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to what options to consider? I cannot afford to lose my job (who can?) but I don't know how to resolve these issues

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iwantavuvezela · 31/05/2020 13:17

How old is your child Op - would using a secondary school aged child work? Could thy come to your house and do their school work .
Is there another single parent / or family in a similar position and you can share care?

Findmyfurlough · 31/05/2020 13:37

My son is 7. A teenager would be fine for occasional babysitting but I couldn't have them do overnight care, nor prob early mornings. Also they may not always be willing or available.

I've no idea how I'd find out if anyone would consider sharing childcare, it's not exactly something I want to advertise on Facebook because of the separation and other issues. While I'm open to the idea, I'm a little reluctant to be dependent on another parent to 'help out', and also to have to be available when I'm not working to return the favour. It could work, but it could also go wrong easily, ruining any friendship and leaving me back at square one

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Apple40 · 31/05/2020 15:21

How about childminders, some are able to offer care for shift workers and some offer overnight care at there house. If you take a look on childcare.co.uk you will be able to find a list of local childminders to you.

Findmyfurlough · 31/05/2020 15:59

I have previously used childminders but have never been able to find one who offered overnight care. Something to do with their registration restrictions not allowing it I believe

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iwantavuvezela · 31/05/2020 20:25

Yes I can see how tricky this is - is there anyone you know whose child is a young adult (now home from university) that you trust who could do overnights. I imagine, short term there will be young adults not able to do the usual restaurant / bar work they would usually do in between studying etc. Or is there someone retired who might be able to do this for you (sleep overnight)

randomsabreuse · 31/05/2020 20:32

Do you have a spare room? An au pair might be a solution. If you are close to a university you might be able to let out the room to a lodger (post-grad/not interested in all the nights out stuff) at a discount if they cover your awkward shifts.

Depends how mature your son is - if he's happy to get on with homework/play independently? If it's mostly about being the responsible adult in case of trouble (plus cook dinner) this might well work. If DS is full on needing attention, not so much...

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Blondeshavemorefun · 29/06/2020 23:17

Sounds like an au pair would be the best option
And maybe paying them a bit extra for evening /nights

How often is your shift overnight

Sorry dh is useless and you are seperating

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