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mogs0 · 21/09/2007 00:55

Not sure if I should put this here or in another section but will have a go!

This evening I used a friends babysitter who I've met a couple of times before and has looked after ds at my friend's house. I know that my friend uses her often and felt totally comfortable leaving her in charge of ds.

I was only out for a couple of hours, came home, called her a cab then went to get her money from the pot. I'd put it in there half an hour before she arrived. The pot is filled with lots of loose change and about 4 small purses that contain various amounts of money (one is for my CMing petty cash, one is to go towards my credit card bill, one is ds' pocket money and the other is very empty!) and is kept in the kitchen. I'd put £30 in one of the purses to cover the babsitting cost and her cab home. When I went to find the purse all that was in the pot was the loose change and ds' pocket money purse. I took the pot off the shelf, shifted the coins around to see if the purses were underneath and they were definately not there. I faffed around for a minute or so then went to the lounge to get my bag in the hope that I'd have enough in my purse. I was £5 short so came back to the kitchen to rumage in the pot again and 2 of the purses were on the top. Took the extra £5 out and off she went. Came back to the kitchen and under the coins was the last missing purse. There are 2 possibilities that I can think of 1)babysitter had picked them up then had second thoughts when I'd gone to get my bag and had shoved them back in or 2)ds had been in there messing about (though not sure about this as he's never done it before but will check with him in the morn). The purses were definately not there when I looked first.

Feel a bit crap about it really as I hardly ever go out unless it's some big occasion and then I usually arrange for a family memeber to come and stay to look after ds.

Do you think I should say anything to my friend, who also uses her, as I don't have any proof that she did anything. Or should I just not use her again and stop being dramatic and be glad that my 3 drinks out with my sister didn't cost me nearly £200!!!

If you've read this far, I hope it all makes sense!

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TheBlonde · 21/09/2007 11:49

Did she take any money?

mogs0 · 21/09/2007 13:15

No.

Not sure what to think today. I guess because nothing is actually missing then there's not really anything to tell my friend.

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TheBlonde · 21/09/2007 13:30

Hmm tricky then

Don't use her again and don't leave money there if you have another sitter I guess

mogs0 · 21/09/2007 13:39

Definately won't use her again. And it'll be months before I go out again so will book my sister to come and look after ds!!

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woodyrocks · 23/09/2007 19:12

I almost sacked my cleaner once thinking she had stolen money from me and I later found the money in my dressing gown pocket (where I had put it).

Make sure you are doubly sure before accusations fly. Sorry if that is not what you want to hear but TBH you know what you are going to do regardless of what we say.

mogs0 · 23/09/2007 22:34

Since the op I have discovered a £20 bag of £ coins is missing. If it were just a case of £20 missing then I probably would have doubts as to whether it had been stolen or not but because the purses were definately not there when I first looked then re-appeared 2 minutes later there is no other explanation as far as I can see. Ds was in bed asleep and no-one else had been in my home.

I was unsure about telling my friend but did speak to her this evening and she reassured me that I did the right thing in telling her.

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