Cosleeping?

[babychange12]

Planning to get a nanny when I go back to work in about 6 months time after maternity leave with DS2. So far we have been cosleeping - how does it work with a nanny? Do they cosleep with the baby as well on the bed?

I would rather the nanny not sleep on our bed, feels a bit too personal? Could we perhaps get the nanny to cosleep in the spare bedroom with DS2? Or is it not something that nannies do? Ie nannies don't sleep with the babies they are in charge of? Or am I overthinking this?

DS1 has always coslept with us but he went to nursery so we didn't have this problem.

Is this a live in nanny?

I wouldn't have the nanny in with you, if that's what you mean!

What's DD1 going to nursery got to do with anything?

I think that’s really sad tbh.
I’m far from a parent who practices ‘attachment parenting’ but your baby wants to be with you, not a nanny.
This sounds like something they’d do on Upstairs Downstairs

You want to know if a nanny will co sleep in your bed? Is this a joke?

This is confusing. Are you talking about the nanny putting the baby down for a nap? Or at night? Or all night? Can you clarify?

I wouldn't expect a nanny to finish work when you get home - for example at 6 pm - and then be off duty. You'd be the parent in the evening and at night unless you'd paid for her to babysit.

I am a big co sleeping fan, but wouldn,t expect a Nanny to.

Oh gosh so sorry for the confusion!
I meant why do nannies do during nap time during the day!!

I sleep with my kids at night!

*what

Thought so, though your first post made it sound a bit questionable

They will be able to sort baby out without cosleeping, same as the nursery staff did for DS1. Babies will adapt to different ways of sleeping for different people, same with feeding. Is there a particular way you want the nanny to put baby to sleep?

My SIL co sleeps with my niece. DB puts her down in a cot. She's happy with both ways and adjusts to whatever caregiver she's got.

This would be for a live out nanny, just nap time during the day. Would you expect a nanny to stay with the child while they nap or would they sneak off and go do something else?

I didn't use a Nanny but my nursery were magical. I had a child that wouldn't go in a cot so we co slept for 2 years. Where did the little blighter nap in nursery? In a cot. You are overthinking it. The nanny will cope.

So you want to know where will aby sleep during the day? (where is aby sleeping during the day now?)
O What will Nanny do? Well perhaps care fro 2nd child, clear away meal things, get a bite to eat, get a drink, do Nanny chores. (perhaps laundry, clearing up, preparing tea for D2.?).

Sorry! Clearly i should proofread my posts!
Yes that's a good point @Rtmhwales DH puts him to sleep by playing candy crush and letting DS watch
I think we just have to play it by ear and see how it goes!

Hi. Generally nannies won’t sleep with the child due to safe guarding theirselves. Esp as baby gets older and into toddler

Many nanny insurances won’t allow it

When the baby naps often it is the nannys chance to do any chores and then have a break theirselves

You will find often that the baby will settle for nanny cm nursery a different way then you - just like a bf baby will as obv the childcare me won’t be bf

I don't think the nanny will sit next to DS the whole time he's sleeping.

I expect she'll use the opportunity to have a break herself. Maybe a cup of tea while she updates MN about the woman who wanted her to co-sleep with her baby during the day

I co-slept with my baby/toddler at night but she napped in a cot by herself at 6 months so that shouldn't be a problem. The nanny will probably have ways to get her to sleep.

As a nanny looking after a young baby I would probably settle to sleep on my lap on in a chair and then move to the bed. I have done this for chn who cosleep with parents. I have also done the sit next to the cot until they go to sleep thing too x

No. If you choose to co sleep (as I did), you do the co sleeping. Surely the whole point is bonding?

Nannies don’t cosleep. She’ll have strategies to get him to nap - just as your elder child’s nursery did. And she will likely let him nap alone so she can do something else - tidy / cook / have a cuppa.

As blonds has said. The nanny won’t co sleep it goes against Safeguarding advice. As a nanny I would sit on the floor besides the cot to begin with and each day gradually withdraw until baby can settle on his/her own. The other thing I might do is rocking to begin with to calm baby to a sleep state. Don’t overthink it as the baby will be different for other caregivers. I certainly would never use any screen time. Even for school age , I limit this.

I've cared for numerous babies some from few days old, others from a few weeks old, some 5 months old+ at the start. Many would nap on me when very young, which is a bit of a pain as you can't do much with a baby asleep on your chest. Later on they would nap in a Moses basket and later on in a cot.

Babies are adaptable, they will do one thing with you and something different with someone else. I don't think you are talking about a 4 week old baby, more likely your DS2 will be 6 months or older. So I would not overly worry about how your nanny will put him down for a nap at this stage. Discuss it with applicants at interview, ask what they have done with other babies of a similar age whilst keeping in mind that what works for one may not work for another. Find a nanny who is on the same wavelength as you with regard to settling babies to sleep. If by that time your DS needs someone with him to nap, then use a carrycot in the main room that nanny would use. DS1 may be playing in the same room as DS2 is napping in, that's fine as DS2 may be happier to settle with others around him than on his own in a bedroom.
See what works and adapt it as needed. When a nanny starts the first few weeks often involve finding what works and what does not when it comes to children's sleep, food and everything really.