Letting children watch movies

[Dadofsheds]

My childminder recently was letting my 11 year old watch a 15 rated movie I asked why they were allowing this and the response was well you let them play fortnite and call of duty so I assumed it would be ok, also whilst doing this my 6 year old was made to sit in the kitchen so he wasn’t seeing this movie, I’m I justified to be annoyed at this?

Meh. My parents weren’t huge believers in censorship and exercised sensible caution when it came to films. I remember watching films out of my age range from quite an early age and my parents provisos were always nothing violent or disturbing or sexually graphic but that the odd innuendo was likely to go over our heads anyway and anything you can’t understand isn’t going to scar you for life and that the occasionally swear word wasn’t going to kill us. A good example of this would be something like Four Weddings and a Funeral which I remember watching with my parents when it first came out on video and I was about 10. I didn’t understand half of it but enjoyed it well enough, but some of the jokes definitely passed me by and watching Andi McDowell slobber over Hugh Grant amused me more than scarred me. An example of a joke that I absolutely didn’t get was when Charlotte Coleman’s character says something like that sex is like ping pong but “with slightly smaller balls”. My parents laughed uproariously, but I of course didn’t get it and continued not to for some years, didn’t harm me though!

That said I imagine childminders are bound by a set of rules and you have every right to take your child out of a childcare setting if you aren’t happy with them.

I’d be annoyed about this really. I’ve got an 11 year old and I don’t think he has seen any 15 movies. 13 year old has seen loads, but I don’t think it’s up to someone else to make that decision on your behalf. I’d be the Same if ds had a friend round and would check with their parents if the film was ok for them to watch. I’d let them watch a 12 without checking though.

It's not her decision to make.

My little ones are only allowed to watch U films, as PG is for parents to decide.

It's not right that shes letting him watch 15 films at 11.....but why is it right hes playing games for an 18 year old? That's very violent research shows it desensitized children to violence and reduces their ability to empathize or differentiate between reality and games.

I think it's perfectly reasonable to be unhappy about this.

It's not appropriate for a childcare setting regardless of what happens at home.

ThAt’s unacceptable. However you are also reasonable allowing an 12 year old to play call of duty is too (I have boys of a similar age)

What was the film?

Write this one off as an error in judgement and ask for future movies to be run by you first.

Depending on the movie, YANBU to be annoyed. If it was an Avengers/Marvel type movie I wouldn't care. If it's a movie designed for adults with dark or very real adult themes and violence then I would care a lot.

She is wrong to allow a child in her care to watch mon age appropriate films

But why are you allowing your child to play video games much older then him

I’d be furious actually.

Some Harry potters movies are a 15.

And I have to agree if you let him play call of duty then I'm not sure you really have much of an argument.
There's only so many ways to occupy an older child when on confinement, your 6 year old probably had activities to keep them occupied in the kitchen.
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