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Worried about leaving baby - any advice?

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Worriedmum54321 · 27/01/2020 20:51

Not sure where to put this post, but hoping someone with experience can reassure or advise!
I have a 6 month old baby and am returning to work next week - only 10 hours a week split into 2 evening shifts (3 pm till 8 pm). The plan is for my husband to look after baby as he is not working on those days. When I arranged this work a couple of months ago, I naively imagined it would be easy to leave baby with dad for a few hours and that he would be able to give her a bottle and put her to bed. Now I'm worried that it's going to be a nightmare. Baby is breastfed (having a bit of solid food for a few weeks). We've been trying to get her to take formula milk from a bottle or cup for the last 3 weeks with no success. What's worse is that, even though dad has been doing plenty of baby care, and has been left with her for an hour or 2 a couple of times a week since birth whilst I go out, baby has now started crying whenever I'm not there. This is only really the last couple of weeks. She's normally a very happy baby, settles herself to sleep, sleeps through the night, rarely cries at all.
I'm worried that she's going to cry for hours whilst I'm out and get into a complete state. It just seems such a shame to upset her like this and I'm wishing I'd postponed return to work for a few more months.
Does anyone have any experience of leaving a baby this age? I know I'm not the first mum to return to work! Will the baby cry for 5 hours? Will she give in and take the milk? How many evenings will it take her to get used to being left? Should I delay return to work? Any words of wisdom appreciated!

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nannynick · 29/01/2020 14:13

I cared for a baby who was predominately breast fed for the first 5-6 months. It took a couple of days of him not having anything from a bottle before he started to take it. He would fill up on milk from mum first thing in the morning, then be with me all day having little to nothing from bottle, and then fill up immediately that mum came through the door. They do adjust to having a bottle. It can take some experimentation in getting the temperature as they like it - some like it hot, some like room temperature, some are not fussy, some will take expressed breastmilk from the fridge cold. Each to their own, your husband needs to keep trying and see what works.

SMaCM · 29/01/2020 15:56

Your husband will get used to her routines and needs. At least she can take some solids to keep her going and will hopefully soon get used to a cup or bottle that he can give her milk in. It might take a few days for them to get it right. Wave them off with a cheery goodbye and try and enjoy your time at work. Your baby will be fine.

MySonIsNotOkay · 05/02/2020 15:14

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