Taking child to own house

[Pidgythe2nd]

What are your thoughts on a nanny taking a child to their own house in the day when a new partner was there?
I’m uncomfortable with this as I haven’t seen the house and most importantly don’t know the partner. All checks were done on the nanny.
Not sure if I’m over reacting.
It must have been for at least 2 hours as they ate lunch and the child slept.

I would be really unhappy with this. How old is the child?

Our old nanny used to take the kids back to her home to walk her dog, but my oldest was 8, she would always check with me first, and there was no one else at home. If there was a partner that I hadn’t met, and the oldest child was small enough to have a daytime nap then no fucking way, and if she didn’t check with you then she showed a serious lack of good judgement and I’d be questioning if I wanted to continue to employ her.

Nope. Not on.

If it’s a new nanny, then I’d be uncomfortable with this. However, I probably wouldn’t mind if she’s been working for me for a while and I trusted her.

I'd not trust her judgement after this.

I'm a nanny and I've only ever done this once - when I had an emergency problem with my boiler and needed to let the engineer in, I cleared it with the parents first.
I do know of nannies who take kids to their house quite regularly, for no real reason and it doesn't seem right to me. It's a professional job and in any other job you wouldn't be able to go home during the day because you fancied it.
I would say you were definitely within your rights to bring it up with her and say that you don't want it happening again.

Killed your dog @singlemother24 ?????
What on Earth happened 😢 so sorry

I don’t know about feeling uncomfortable as such, but I wouldn’t be happy with it. Sounds like she’s swanning off home to spend time with her boyfriend instead of focussing first and foremostly on your child during the day - which she is paid to do. It’s unprofessional and not doing the job properly in my opinion. Get someone else.

If nanny is in England and is Ofsted registered, it may be a breach of registration. Daytime care at the carers own home for longer than 2 hours in a day falls under compulsory registration as a childminder.

So the nannies insurance may be invalid and they may be in breach of registration.

Popping round because they forgot something, popping round to let the child/children water the plants, pick strawberries or whatever, short things like that are fine. Going round so nanny can spend time with their partner - that's not on.

What else is known about why they went and how long they stayed and how often that happens, just a one off or happens regularly?

Nope you aren't paying her to spend quality time with her oh.
Plus what Nannynick said. It would be a deal breaker for me if she though this was ok she really seems a bit clueless.

Thanks for all the responses!
I don’t mean to drip feed but more info in case it’s relevant.
She took the child there yesterday to feed some animals and sent a picture of this, so she was totally open about going there which I wouldn’t mind at all. As I was working from home I knew they hadn’t been back from morning school drop off until after school (7 hours) and I asked about sleeping and whether the youngest had napped in the car...and also what they’d done after feeding the animals mid morning. (not prying but out of interest and we're having sleep issues so the sleep is relevant as we’re trying less sleep/earlier sleeps). She seemed a bit ‘sheepish’ but said they’d had lunch there and then a sleep on the sofa. Her partner moved in 1 week ago and has no job/job hunting so I assume he was home.
We’ve employed the nanny for 4 months now, and I really like her, as do the children, but it’s a relatively new relationship with the partner (5 months or so) and although its probably ok, we’ve never met him and I’m not happy they were there so long. At least 2.5 hours looking at the times the photo was sent and knowing what time they’d need to leave for the school run.
Child is 22 months.

As a nanny I’ve often taken children back to mine. I have toys and had hamsters and kids loved seeing them

I did check at interviewS if they minded every now and again
And parents never did

It’s different as partner was there

Part of me is if you trust your nanny you need to trust Her judgement

Maybe she thoight he was out and sounds like she went there as you were working from home

It is hard having employers about as often children play up

Maybe you could invite them both over for a drink/meal when kids in bed so you could meet him

I wouldn't be happy at all. You know nothing about him.

Quick update. Have explained to the nanny our thoughts and she said it was a one off and intention was initially to see the animals, but won’t do it again if we’re uncomfortable.
I’ve said the popping in is fine for the animals but playing and sleeping at our house.
I do trust her and glad it’s all sorted.

Good glad it’s sorted :)

And maybe still invite both over for a drink

All my employers had met my bf then df then dh

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As a child minder any adult in the house that the children would be in contact with have to have a criminal record check done. I don't think meeting someone for a drink is a good enough way to decide your kids should be spending hours with them in thier house.

Jmho.

I’m not saying the op dc should spend hours with the nanny’s bf

They prob won’t meet him again

Maybe I’m weird or had nice employers but they were interested in my life and wanted to meet my Bf df dh

Nobody is saying you are weird or that employers shouldnt have a friendly interest in thier nannys lives.
I am just pointing out the legal side of this situation. (As did PP) If the nanny is looking after the child in her home for over 2hrs then it is classed as child minding with all the rules and regs that go with it.

OP said her nanny was at home at least 2 hrs or more with her partner so she was jeopardizing her job by blurring childcare guidelines.
It's not worth losing your job over and all it takes is someone reporting her for childminding at home unregistered and it's all over.

It's up to op where and who her kids spend time with not the nanny. Its not up to you or anyone else to try to guilt trip her into being invested in her nanny private life. She is her employer not her 'bestie'.

Anyway OP has sorted it out to everyone's satisfaction which is great.

Sounds like the nanny stayed there for a sleep as op/mum at home

But yes agree the 2hr rule so fine to pop to play with animals. Not sleep /be over 2hrs or else her nanny insurance is invalid

I'm a nanny and have done this on occasion for specific reasons (such as others have said like a broken boiler) but my husband is out, it is for no longer than 30 mins or so and in any case even if my husband was home, my nanny child and her mum came to my wedding and the childs mum has met him on numerous occasions. I would not be happy at all about this situation as it's for quite a long time and you do not know this partner at all (after 5 months the nanny surely doesnt know everything about him either?) But maybe I'm being a little harsh in that respect.